Love Yourself

II. Infatuation

What is infatuation?
-  a feeling of foolish or obsessively strong love for, admiration for, or interest in someone or something : strong and unreasoning attachment

"I love him because for me, he's perfect. I don't see flaws about him. He is my ideal husband."

Like what I have said earlier, that is not love.

Being inlove is not 'perfect'. Because you accept his 'imperfection'. Ganyan ang tamang pagmamahal. Tanggap mo anh flaws niya. Hindi siya perfect, pero tanggap mo.

Love is not all about being obsess. Because obsession is not love.

Naranasan ko nang pumasok sa isang relasyon na sobrang obsess ng boyfriend ko sa akin. Yun bang kahit saan ako magpunta dapat kasama siya. He will call and text me para ipaalala na nag mamay-ari na sa akin. Akala niya ba sweet yun?! 🔪 Hindiii!!!

Love is all about TRUST hindi TRUST-ISSUES.

Mahirap ang infatuation dahil wala ka talagang makitang MALI sa taong gusto mo. And you are really obsess that you want him to be in your side ALWAYS. Yun bang gusto mo marining ang boses niya 78/56 hrs.?

If you love that person. Tama na ang 1 hour na pag-uusap. Because you respect her. May kanya-kanyang buhay pa rin tayo kahit mag jowa na, okay? Huwag obsess, hindi yan love.

You waited him for how many years? Taas ang kilay ng mga guilty.

Why did you wait for him? Is it because you see him as your partner in the future? Siguro ay curious ka sa kaniya kaya feeling mo mahal mo. Tama?

Why in the first place you choose to wait for him even you know that there is no chance to both of you? Or, baka naman umaasa ka na may chance?

This might be love.

Hindi sure na love nga, ayusin mo utak mo. Sabi ko 'maari', okay?

Loving is when you are happy and not doubting. Kasi kung nag d-doubt ka, that's not love. It's infatuation.

Infatuation fades after a year. Kasi kung month lang, maybe hindi pa gaano kalala ang ka-tangahan mo.

Being in state of infatuation is hard. Lalo na kapag naging kayo na ganoon ang feelings niyo sa isa't-isa tapos yung guy biglang nawalan ng gana (for no reason, I mean, that's infatuation. Nawawala). And you, hindi pa tapos ang infatuation mo. Kaya grabe ang iyak mo. Hindi ka maka move on because you don't see any flaws or mali sa relasyin niyo pati sa kaniya.

You are not happy (malamang sinong matutuwa sa break-up). But if you choose to accept and let go, that is love. Pero kung gusto mong gumanti, then that's not love. It is more likely obsession.

Obsess ka na girl, pa rehab ka na.

Infatuation also is... You want to be his priority. Yun bang ayaw mo na mauuna ang paglalaro niya o pagligo niya, kasi gusto mo IKAW ang unahin. Seriously? Are you insane? If you found this cute, malala ka na. You are not inlove.

Infatuation is more likely TOXIC. Beware guys of this kind of feeling. Delikado ito.

Hangga't maari, kung alam mong may sintomas ka nito. Pagaling ka muna. If you are in relationship, mag-usap kayo ng mabuti. Calm yourselves and talk sincerely. Huwag niyong hayaan na maging toxic kayong dalawa. Hangga't maari rin, ang problema niyo huwag niyong i-share sa iba. Unless if mabigat na talaga. Also, know your privacy. Respect is a must. Hindi mo dapat ipalandakan sa lahat na (kung) na jugjug mo na ang gf mo or di kaya if you talk dirty talks. That's private. Hindi maganda na ipagkalat niyo yan. Toxic ang ganun.

But if you are single (like me), limit your obsession. Matuto kang lumugar, okay? If you are teenager, please, enjoy your teenage life. Hangga't maaga pa, huwag mong hayaan na maging toxic ka.