Love is Hard

Romantic Feelings for That Person and How to Handle Them

It doesn't matter what grade you are in or what age or gender you are, you have probably had a crush on that one person or people! Its ok to have multiple crushes, you just have to make sure you don't overthink about which person you like more, give yourself and mind time to think what or who you want. Anyway, we all know that one person you feel can talk to for ages and never get bored of what they say or do. You are just laser focused of what they have to say that you get lost in their words and expressions. 

It can be hard to figure out you interests in people I know from my own personal experience. I thought a lot about what the pros and cons of that person were, such as if they would treat me and the people I love well or if they were just a good person in general and not a bad person to teachers, or just adults. 

Now how to handle these feelings is quite simple, DO NOT let them take over your lifestyle. That is just one way to set yourself up for disaster. Another thing you don't want to do is over think about what they say or do. That is one of the things me, and other people struggle with quite a bit. I've learned it isn't my place to tell the person how to act or speak, and it shouldn't be yours either, the only time it is really okay to say something about what they did/said is of they are verbally, physically, or mentally abusing you or others, making racist, sexist, or homophobic comments towards you or others. Those are really the only times you should say something to them, or an adult you trust otherwise it really isn't your place to be telling that person what to say or do. the last way NOT to handle your feelings for that person(s) is to beat yourself for liking them! You may be feeling this way because other people you trust don't like that person, you didn't like them when you first met them, or you've ignored those feelings for ages. When it comes to this, you may make up excuses, bury the feeling, or just try to forget you even thought about that person in that way. instead, you want to think of the positives of that person, repeat them in your head, write them down, or talk to someone you trust for support and to help organize your thoughts.

 Now I want you dear reader, to always think of the pros of that person you like and try to be confident around them. Yes, that may sound hard for you, but I promise it will benefit you a lot. I've learned to become more socially confident with people I like and thanks to that, I've never been happier with the person I am with now. So dear reader, if it'll work for me it'll work for you trust me. 

***HEY! I'm sorry about how short this part is, and I am well aware some of my facts maybe wrong but a lot of this part I am just going off my life with having my own romantic feelings***