Love is Hard

The Many Types of Insecurities

Insecurities are very common for people around the age of 10 and up and there are many types of them, and they may vary from person to person. Many people suffer with them, and I know how hard they can be considering they hit me really hard for a very long time. The main thing I struggled with was weight gain I was so worried about myself image that I would do anything I possibly could to try and perfect what I saw in the mirror. And a lot of the time, it never worked I just felt so much worse afterward. Then eventually I looked at myself and decided that what was looking back at me what just enough.

The way most insecurities start is with a positive/negative thought process, also known as the "devil" and the "angel" stereotype. If you've never heard of that stereotype, it's basically your conscience, the angel is your good thoughts/and positive mindset. It tells you good things about you and what you are doing, and it tells you to make good choices in your life, and to just do good things for others. The devil on the other hand is your bad thoughts/negative mindset and doesn't do that whatsoever. It mocks you and points out your flaws. This is basically how insecurities start to develop, the devil part of your conscience is very hard to ignore, it's always there nagging at you, and telling you what you should fix about yourself when there really isn't anything you would need to fix. The devil also tells what is going on in other people's minds that are not true or just not even close to what they were actually thinking. The devil will always try to physically, mentally, or emotionally hurt you and the unfortunate truth is a lot of people go through with it, resulting in hurting themself, or making extremely bad choices, and not all of them are physical. 

Now let's talk about how to make the devil be silenced. This is an extremely challenging thing to do or even attempt to do and sounds impossible to try but I want to assure you dear reader that it is possible. The main thing you will want to try and do is just not agree with what it is saying or repeat a few positive phrases to help your angel come back to life again and fill your day with positive people or objects, grow a support system of your friends, family, or someone you trust, or watch your favorite movies, TV shows, or listen to music that makes you feel good or just your favorite music in general. One really good method I use when I am not feeling good about myself or how I look is take a look at myself in the mirror and name some good things about me and my personality or I go to a family member or close friend for support and some TLC. (Tender, loving, care)

Feeling insecure is a completely normal thing for a younger age group, and even an older age group. Now I want you dear reader to think about if it was a person in your life who made you feel the way you do about yourself, did they nit-pick certain parts of your personality or looks? Did that person insult you in any way? If it is a yes to any of these things, I want you to know that person is most definitely jealous of you, yes, I am well aware that is very common thing to tell someone, but it is probably true. You are amazing person and don't want you to believe anything bad someone says to you.

 Criticism is often mistaken for negative comments, and it all has to do the tone in that person's voice. It used to be extremely hard for me to tell rather if someone is telling me something negative, I didn't want to hear about myself, or if they were just trying to tell me what I should fix because of the tone of that person's voice, so do not be afraid to ask if they are trying to bring you down or if they are just trying to help! But if they are trying to bring you down in anyway, try and consider talking to that person because you don't deserve to be brought down, you deserve everything good in the world.