We All Have Distance

One Day, Zero Nights

CW: This will talk about break ups, disorders, and some other topics, also sex

Hello, hopefully you're still interested in my uneducated rambling based on real life experiences.

This chapter will refer to more romantic distanced relationships and their downfalls. (And their perks)

I'm sure this can also apply to friends I'm just writing in the mindset of romance!

Online relationships are usually rushed into, you've known someone for two weeks but you feel so attached that you jump into the fire a bit too quickly

Sometimes online relationships make you stay weary of relationships. You don't want to overshare

(But I have the 'tism so I do overshare. All the time.)

This can cause some rough waters. Especially considering you feel as if you're over sharing too often and you can't read their facial expressions to tell if they're bored or not. (Currently experiencing this with my partner)

Or you can't tell if your partner wants you to share more because you're under sharing. (I sometimes feel this way with certain people)

This can cause a lot of anxiety, you don't want your partner or friend to be annoyed with you. But take a deep breath and maybe at a later time ask them how they feel, for reassurance.

Another option is asking a shared friend to ask them, you'll most likely get a more honest answer that way.

If you get a hurtful or rude response I recommend taking this as a time to have a conversation with your partner before seeing if this is a red flag. If they continue to be rude while you try and discuss why they feel that way, and why they said they were feeling that way so rudely, then this is a red flag.

However if they apologize and kindly restate why they fee that way, use that time to strengthen your relationship.

Now the distance when it comes to online or just your partner moving away can be incredibly hard

I'M SUFFERING SO MUCH-

Anyway but physical affection is replaceable to a degree!

https://5lovelanguages.com

This site can help you figure out what love language you have. If it comes out as physical touch, look at the percentages and see what your second love language is.

This is what you should focus on.

My love language is words of affirmation and physical touch, but with my partner I'm pretty sure it's aware of my words of affirmation love language.

(Considering the things it sends me)

I'm aware that it likes physical touch a lot, so I normally base our conversations on "what if we could have such physical touch."

Seeing it's impatience is amusing-

But whenever that isn't the best of courses to take, we usually do send pictures.

However recently (instead of calling) videos and voice memo's have been quite nice!

As long as this doesn't turn into grooming, or becomes uncomfortable, it's nice!

You can always use FaceTime or voice chats to feel closer!

Here's a list of other ideas to do with your partner:
1. If you want to do more sexual things you can most likely instruct them with pictures, videos, calls
2. If you like the idea of just ask for pictures of your partner innocently; or just ask for pictures of their pet. This Is a much cleaner option
3. If you have Disney plus, make a party to watch a movie together
4. If you're both wanting to study, this website lets you both call while playing music and choosing a background. It's hella relaxing! You can choose anime backgrounds, or animated backgrounds. It's very aesthetic! Lifeat.io
5. Here.fm is a very interactive website when it comes to friends. You can make them louder if you move closer to them in the "room" you created.
6. Both my partner and I have original characters. If you both bond over each others stories, art, characters, use campfirewriting.com ! There is also a mobile app. You can easily link your storylines and characters to eachother through here. Or create entire maps and worlds
7. Play games together. I really enjoy playing Sky, it's a mobile game that can be very fun with friends or your partner. It has beautiful scene art and cinematic too!

Feel free to add more fun games, or suggestions using the + icon to the right.

Now more problems can occur with long distance relationships, this will only apply to minors.

Sometimes your partner will lose their phones due to disobeying their guardian for long periods of time. You have no way to contact them and you're so afraid they'll lose feelings.

Now I cannot guide you through this period but perhaps you guys have advice for me and others reading.

I wish you all the best till next chapter