Six years. People get so amazed whenever they found out that we've been together for almost 6 years.
May mga nagugulat at natutuwa. It also makes me proud too, kasi sa twing nalalaman nila kung gaano na kami katagal, i can see their thoughts, "may forever nga!". Being able to inspire someone? Napakasarap sa feeling.
Pero hindi pa ganoon katagal ang six years, i had a close friend, mas amaze ako sa kanila. They were togther for 8 years! Imagine how i struggle calculating when did they started their relationship? Imagine my horror when i also found out that they were both their first and they are in a long distance relationship! Good job Cupid!
Just like any normal couples, we do fight. Umiiyak at nasasaktan din kaming dalawa sa bawat misunderstandings. One thing I am bragging about to people is that we never had a fight over a third party, maybe noong unang taon namin which is normal since there is no intimate feelings involved. And that was also the period when the Ex's come out and trying to steal the spotlight away from you. I trust him so much and he didn't break it. Yes, sometimes, nachachallenge lalo sa mga kaibigan. I am very immature and clingy. I always wanted him beside me. Lagi kong hinahanap ang presence niya. Maybe because he took away my social life. Maybe because i started seeing only him that i didn't bother opening doors to friends.
As we grow up together, we both experienced hardships, failures and success. Na-realize ko, habang tumatagal, hindi lang love ang umuusbong samin, we are also building a strong friendship. Yun ang napansin ko ngayong six years na kami. We acted bestfriends and not lovers anymore although there is intimacy between our friendship. Ang iba, they don't look forward to that. They take friendship between couples as a sign of losing love, pero hindi. That adds fire to us. Mas minahal namin ang isa't isa dahil naging magkaibigan na rin kami.
Oo, nagkakaroon ng pangyayaring naghihiwalay rin kami. Petty fights and petty reasons. The longest time that we have stayed away from each other lasted two weeks only. We are not perfect, he's making mistakes too. Ako, as a woman, i don't want to sleep na masama ang loob. I always think he doesn't care dahil nakakatulog siya na alam niyang may nasaktan siya. It's a selfish act. Kaya kapag ako ang nagkakamali, i can't manage to do what is think is right dahil feeling ko unfair sa part ko that i'm doing the right thing for him yet he's not doing the mutual thing to me.
Ito naman ang kadalasang tanong na nakukuha namin; "buti di kayo nagkaanak?", "bakit wala pa kayong baby?", "kayo naman sunod!" and etc.
I don't know if that is stereotyping at some point. Kapag ba matagal na ang isang couple, talagang ineexpect magkaroon ng surprise baby?
No.
Hindi ako ipokrita, hindi kami nagmamalinis, but one thing is sure to break that continuous question to us, yun ay ang "we know our priorities".
Ang mga kaibigan kong nakapalibot sa aming dalawa, halos lahat ay may anak na. Siguro that also enlighten us about having a child outside marriage. We've witnessed their struggles, how they cope up and how they try to raise their kids. Siguro yun ang dahilan why we decided not to have MUNA. We are not as strong willed as them. Hindi ko kayang ma-experience lahat ng struggles nila, i am scared. I envy them, of course. Gusto ko na rin magkaanak but i am too scared of the outcome kapag ginawa ko yon ng maaga. Besides, simula bata pa ako, i always dreamed of getting married. I wanted to feel what wedding jitters is. Gusto kong maging rpud ang parents ko. I am not a very wealthy person but my parents make sure we have something in our mouths and pockets. I want to return the favor, at saka, masarap lustayin ang unang sweldo sa trabaho sa pagsha-shopping diba?
My condition with my boyfriend; he can't make me pregnant without a house to be our home and a car that will bring me to the hospital when i deliver his first born. Maybe you could make this your goal too.
