Relationship and Marriage in My Dictionary

An OverRated Word called Married Life

The year starts with a piece of disturbing news, my childhood friend Jenny Mathew is getting divorced, even though she and Joe loved each other for almost 5 years and then got married and had a child. This news has left me feeling confused and saddened. I don't understand how two people who loved each other so much could decide to end their marriage. It also upsets me that some people in my locality are judging Jenny and Joe for having a love marriage. What difference does it make in how they met? The important thing is that they tried to make their marriage work, but unfortunately in their case, it didn't. I don't get it; I totally don't get this....

I don't really believe that couples who had arranged marriages are living happily, most of their stories might be worse than this. Despite my skepticism about the happiness of couples in arranged marriages or love marriages, my parents are determined to find me the most eligible bachelor. I feel suffocated by the pressure to marry, especially since everyone my age in my community is already married. I am Alina Augustine, 25 years old, and I am tired of the societal pressure to get married.

Current society seems to have lost love, commitment, respect, loyalty, and compassion. Both men and women are obsessed with finding the perfect partner, who will inevitably fail to meet their unrealistic expectations. Consequently, people are not afraid to leave their current partners in search of the next best thing. This fear of abandonment is deeply ingrained in my mind, thanks to my own father, who abandoned us when I was young. As a result, I am afraid of committed relationships, even though I long for love and companionship. I am terrified of being left by the special person in my life, so I avoid marriage altogether.

Today, on my desk, I began to discover many strange things. For people like Joe, their expectations are far too high, and even worse, they can never work on their relationships. I believe that many people split up for the same ridiculous reason: they search for their perfect match straight out of the world of their imagination, or in other words, movies, fiction, novels, etc. As a result, they miss out on the opportunity to love and live with real people beside them who have flaws, but who can still offer a fulfilling and meaningful relationship.

I totally understand that it's quite natural and normal for us to want our partner to be the best and to be the one and only to meet our expectations. But I feel that these expectations and the thought of getting the best and best only can make us unhappy. People like them always want it right and always perfect. And if their expectations are not met, they struggle to stay in that relationship and eventually end up breaking the heart of their significant other.

Relationships, like everything else in the world, need timely repair and care. My granny used to say, "Alee, it's easier to get new things than to maintain, repair, and reuse the ones you already have. During our prime ages, we would fix our broken items and reuse them with love and care because they held so many beautiful memories. But nowadays, people simply throw them away. Don't be like that, Alee." Even when my granny pointed to a doll I was about to throw away, her words hit me hard today. I believe her simple thought may be the real reason why the divorce and broken relationship rate was lower back then. Fixing instead of searching for the new-that's the real flex.

We are humans with flaws and imperfections, so it is impossible to find a perfect partner. In this era of divorce, many couples dream of the impossible: a perfect relationship. However, even the best relationships require hard work and compromise. If both partners are willing to put in the effort, they can create a happy and fulfilling relationship, even if it is not perfect. However, this does not apply to extreme situations like violent or cheating partners. In those cases, it is understandable why the couple should not be together. Dreaming of the perfect partner is a myth, and we should cherish the good relationships we have. Don't be afraid to work hard to make your relationship the best it can be.

Even though I am saying all this, I cannot agree to get married because I cannot bear the thought of leaving the person I love most. I am not from this generation. I don't like the idea of short-term relationships. I only want to be with one person forever. I want all the cheesy dates and random romantic gestures, and to spend my life with that one person. All of this might have been normal for the couples years ago, but I think this generation has forgotten what real love is.