Struggles of Life

Acceptance (Society, Self & Mind)

Well let me begin with what acceptance means. To me it's being okay with something; like your personal appearance. It has many definitions and meanings. But it's also one of the hardest things to deal with and take in. There are times when I don't ever want to accept myself. "I'm not 100 pounds." "My thighs giggle when I walk." "No one will ever like me if my eyebrows aren't perfect." "I cry too much." "I'm not smart enough." "My love handles are noticeable in this top." These few comments often go through my head but among the years I've learned that despite the disapproval of myself and the small characteristics that it's okay. It's okay to not like parts and bits of who you are. It's okay to wake up one day and not feel the best. But you have to realize that whether or not how you feel you're special. God NEVER makes mistakes ever. You're imperfectly perfect, genuine, smart, unique, favored by so many friends and family, and beautiful. Most importantly you are you and NO ONE can take that away from you. We're all made different but no matter what we have to keep our head up through the storm. You won't be accepted by others at school or maybe your parents but that's okay. You're living your life and if it's satisfying  than that's all that counts. You're the most precious jewel on this earth so why not shine and be boastful? You can do so much in life. I know you're capable of the impossible. God put you on this earth to do wonderful things. You should be thankful. Back to the haters at school, forget them. They're only trying to bring you down with the negative comments or rude remarks because you're above them. Don't ever feed them with what they want. Do you and do what makes you happy. So what you play sports? So what you play an instrument? So what you write poetry? So what you like to stay after school and help tutor kids? How you are shouldn't be something that you're sorry about. I can't tell you the countless times where I've caught myself apologizing for the way that I was. For example, I once dated a boy who didn't approve of my music choice which is Rock and Heavy Metal. He thought that the stereotypes he knew about that genre were all true, which is awful. When I would listen to one of my favorite bands or songs in the car I'd always turn it off and say "I'm sorry." What I learned: Don't EVER change or apologize for something that you enjoy or like. You can listen to music that screams, you can like tattoos and piercings, you can like to be adventurous and outgoing, you can like and care for certain band members, you can enjoy going to concerts instead of parties, you can be different, you can wear black clothing, you can be shy, and the list goes on. Funny thing is that after a while of us dating I made a promise to never listen to my Metal music again if I wanted to continue to date him. It sounds silly doesn't it? Well I attempted to try it for him but it didn't even last a month. I found myself feeling empty, lonely, and lost because I wasn't able to listen to it. I had no other release. I don't like Country, and I didn't like what they played on the radio; it just became old to me. So finally I broke up with him because I refused to change. That was 7 years ago and to this day I still have confidence that I made the right decision. Always stand strong with yourself. Fight for what you believe in, even if that means standing alone. The right person or group of people will eventually find you and sooner or later you won't feel alone. There is no reason why you can't chase your dreams. If you aren't a good reader, go to the library. If you aren't athletic, go to the gym, If you aren't good at math, grab a friend or a tutor. There is always ways that you can help yourself. There's always others out that are looking to help you. Don't cast them away either. Be open for new opportunities and chances of change. I can promise that when you start seeing success or difference in your life; whether it be physically or mentally you will be motivated. From that point you'll not want to stop. You've won the battle now. It's simple to go on. Another thing, don't let disabilities stop you either. Regardless if you're in a wheelchair, are without a limb, have a metal illness, etc don't ever quit. Let me end this with two of my favorite quotes ever. One from Austin Robert Carlile (Lead screamer & singer of the bandOf Mice & Men) and the other is a lyric from the band Of Mice & Men. 1. "You have many options in life, never make giving up one of them." 2. "Don't let go, time will heal." Let me go into detail what they mean to me. Despite the challenges we face we have many options to choose from; give up, run away, keep going, or even stop. But the most important option is to never give up.  God will never give you something that you can't handle. So don't think that "oh this is too hard," "I can't do this," I'm not ready," because you are. And God has made you ready for his challenges and struggles because he knows you're capable of it and much more. The second song lyric became one of my favorites this year. There were many days and nights where I didn't wanna do this anymore and I just wanted to give up in tough times because I thought they weren't ever going to go by. But they did and I realized how true it was. Don't ever risk your life or ability of decisions to give up. Don't think that just because you're going through a rough time means you have a rough life. Eventually through time it will blow by. You can't find a rainbow without a little rain. You can't find the calm before you go through the storm. Hold on, please. Because you can and will get through this. No bad day is worth taking your life. Trust me. I love you. xoxo.