Toxic Mothers can be just as Bad as Absent Fathers

Set the tone

SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE BEAUTIFUL

SINGLE MOTHERS, DOING

EVERYTHING THEY CAN TO MAKE

SURE THEIR KIDS HAVE A WELL

BALANCED CHILDHOOD. This book ain't for you.

As women you are absolutely amazing. It's often said a mother's job is never

done. Fathers get the luxury of having the ability to walk away, mothers can't.

You guys wear many hats and have to fill many roles. You have to be strong and

handle things you were never meant to handle alone, but you do it anyway. A lot

of times you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. It gets hard for

you, I know it gets hard for you. You always find a way to make a way out of no way, and just get it done.

This book is intended in no way to minimize the enormous importance of a

"GOOD"mother and the impact she has. However it is intended to highlight

those mothers that don't quite understand the trauma they cause.

I apologize in advance, but somebody had to say it.

SO MANY MOTHERS ARE THEIR

CHILD's FIRST BULLY! We must get to a point where women are not above

criticism, because a lot of kids are suffering. Many of you reading this may have

suffered, because we romanticize toxic sh*t simply because it is brought on by

the mother. Many times, society seems to say that the mother can do no wrong,

because she bears the bulk of the responsibility of caring for the children. Again, We have to get to a point where women are not above criticism.

I've got to keep it real though...

Toxic Mothers can be just as bad as absent fathers, and like it or not... we're

going to talk about this sh*t.

Although Toxic Mothers and Absent Fathers are both horrible, at least an absent

father is absent and not directly

influencing the child on a daily basis. Yes, the child definitely feels the void at

some point from not having a father around, but the mother is present all of the

time.

She is the main influence, the one who shapes and molds the child's perspective

of life and his or her view of the world. Often times this view has been very

damaging and leads to unsettled issues in adults. Many people don't understand

the damage their words can actually do and just how much weight they really

hold.

Not too long ago, I was mentoring a young man that was in his freshman year of

high school. Unfortunately, he committed suicide, but not before leaving this

poem behind for his mother to read:

From the Start

(To a Mother from a Son)

Born into this world with two strikes, We're Black and we're men.

It's guaranteed we' ll have a tougher path.

You, as the mother, are the main influence....

So, why add to it – Strike 3.

With no father figure present,

It's hard to find someone

Who'll identify with my presence.

The only thing you seem to see when look at me Is the guy who left you 7

months into your pregnancy.

He left in a quick flash, but Hell... I get all the backlashes.

When you tell me –

I'll never be nothing –

I'm gonna to be just like my daddy

It immediately lowers my self-esteem.

This constant verbal abuse is driving me insane, But, what's even worse is it's

sinking into my brain Killing my dreams

Destroying my visions before I could even get started.

I'm not your lil' motherfucker, your bitch, or your hoe I'm not stupid, I'm not

retarded.

Are you so blind to see, so selfish to believe that Your words won't matter to

me?

Your words are powerful, and they hurt.

They're like cancer, killing me slowly.

Not disrespectfully speaking but please...

Watch how you talk to me.

How could I ever believe in me if all I know And have heard

Inside my house

Is what seems to be

A bitter Black woman cursing at me?

Being successful to me is but an imaginative thought I was never taught.

Taught what it is to be a real man

Or dream as far as the stars

Because in my heart

Your words are battle scars.

Which is why....

I'm in this prison cell writing you this letter From the heart

Telling you

How you

Whether you wanted to believe it or not, Damaged me

From the start.

I was saddened to see this poem. I was even more hurt to hear what he had done,

and extremely heart broken when I found out why he had done it. This is a topic

that can't continued to be glossed over, because the topic is not in favor of

women. It has been the norm that when men are on the receiving end of negative

talk, we have no problem tearing them down with the quickness.

Continue to next part of the book......
Also remember
Other BOOKS by CLARENCE BIRDSONG III
1) Black A Love Story
2) Chocolate Kisses (children's book)
3) Quit Trippin' (Black womenEmpowerment)
4) Don't walk away like a B*tch (Domestic violence)
5) They lied to us: MONEY ain't evil and being broke Doesn't make you MORE
SPIRITUAL
6) SHE's FAKING IT!
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