Ripening...

Life is a journey and combination of many things , but the one thing that makes us both infinitely happy and deep sorrow is human connection, everyone realise this when they are in the phase of adulting , this phase is as similar as letters in the post box . Consider yourself as a letter in a post box and you are living happily with the other letters and suddenly letters are starting to leave you and reaching their own destinations, it hurts like hell when you imagine of being with them and they are ready to leave you behind. It is not completely their fault but neither yours , the effections and emotions made you to think like that but you forget that they only made "you to think like that" not for them.

Lets talk about some real examples..

When we consider Indian things this mostly happens because of marriage , that particular person(who got married or about get married) was being connected with you and you guys enjoying each and every moment thinking you will sustain like this even in the future , but once they got married nothing will be the same. They will have their own family ,their own life . Things  change so fast from "wishing on your birthday on 12pm" to "dropping a text message" , from "Hey lets plan for a vacation together " to "hey! we are going for vacation" ,from "I miss you" to "glad to meet you" . Marriage is may be a happiest thing ever happened to those who got married but it was never a happiest thing for the ones who are with the people who got married and if you are sisters or brothers it will change into a horrible a thing, marriage is just ending your ties with old ones(unintentionally) and creating a new ties with other people . The married ones have their own family having next generations and they barely have time to speak with you and when you realise this, you can't accept it at one go., but eventually you will because it is not intentional it just a situational demand and priorities and one day you will say this to their kids "once upon a time your mother and i were best sisters " . But lets not forget that everything is temporary around you and at the end you are the one who is going to be with you may be we can live without knowing mathematics but we can't live without self acceptance , its a typical general mind set of people to get validations for small things , like consider you are about to buy a dress but you will not buy it until someone validate it, if that someone is not okay with that dress you are ready to give up and act like even you didn't like it but you are the one who liked it initially , asking for opinions is not wrong  but having their impact so much that you can easily change your decisions is not correct. From small things to big decisions our emotions are dependent on others but we forget that these "others" are not going to be with you.

When we consider our friends we limit them and sometimes we keep expectations on them that they are going to be with us , but we forget that they also communicate with  different people everyday and there are high chances of them getting attached with the other people it not our fault of keeping expectations but it is fault of our emotions , they covered us from bitter truths , but when we realise the change in their behaviour after meeting new people its hard to accept, but don't forget to create your limits and control on emotions next time, take a lesson from this experience respect the time you spent with them and move on.

Adulting is just as similar as ripening of mango , the delightful taste we  experience  while eating mango  is only when the mango is ripened but we forget  that the taste is temporary it exist only at that particular time. Don't seek for validations just live in the moment and try to forget, sometimes even memories will hurt you , don't try to store lot of things in your mind try to maintain vacant .If you have courage of saying hi don't forget to have courage of saying goodbye.

             DRINK COFFEE LIVE IN THE MOMENT SAY GOODBYE BEFORE SOMEONE GIVES YOU                                                                                                     GOODBYE