Underrated Perspective

Part 1- Living with Your Family vs. Living with Relatives

As a young person, residing with our family can present various challenges, which are fundamental during teenage years. While we appreciate our independence and often feel empowered with our knowledge, the rules, disciplinary actions, and household routines can sometimes make us feel restricted, akin to being in captivity. If you're contemplating moving out and staying with other relatives or friends, here are some insights from my point of view.

Living with our own family brings about many differences. 

 Scenario 1: You contribute to household chores for 5 days a week, but then on the remaining 2 days, you relax like a sloth.

Family will says "Yung anak ko bihira yan kumilos sa bahay pero pagkumilos yan sobrang linis ng bahay."

"Ah si _____, hindi gaanong natulong sa bahay yan, pero laging sya yung nauutusan ko sa labas"

On the other hand, most relatives (again, not all, but almost) will says "Tamad nga yun, minsan lang kumilos mas madalas pa humiga (magcellphone etc.)

"Sa umpisa lang yun naglilinis, pagsinipag, pagtinamad wala na. Walang naitutulong sa bahay"

Our family notices the contrast by acknowledging our negative traits while also providing positive feedback. They emphasize that despite our negative aspects, there are positive ones too. In comparison, living with non-family members often results in them overlooking our positive attributes and focusing more on the negative aspects, making it challenging for us to progress.

Scenario 2: Doing Household Chores 

One scenario involves your family appreciating and thanking you for assisting with chores. On the other hand, some relatives may discourage you from helping and then criticize you for being lazy when you're not assisting, and sometimes they spreading this perception to others.

Saan mo ilulugar sarili mo te? Ay hindi ko din alam!

Scenario 3: Hanging with Friends

 When planning an outdoor gala with your friends. Your family, they may grant permission, especially if it's a rare occasion, but be mindful of the repercussions. Some families may have curfews, particularly for girls. Failing to keep your word can result in disappointment and possibly being grounded for attending the gala! 

Conversely, other family members might allow more freedom without a curfew, but bear in mind that there are still consequences. Consistently behaving this way may earn you labels like "Pakawala" "Next time, buntis na yan." "Blacksheep" "Malandi" at marami pang iba.

These three scenarios provide examples of what it's like to live with others. If you currently live with your parents, be grateful for the experience. If you are considering moving out and sharing a living space with friends or others, take the decision seriously. Your home is your sanctuary, and you will come to appreciate it more over time.