Journey

Knowing and Forgetting

The phone rings...

"So are we going to college or not?"

"I walk from the office straight to campus"

This is the first time I have entered campus as an economics student, my goal in pursuing this education is actually just to get a degree to match my girlfriend who has already taken a higher education.

"Mother needs a man who is equal to you, not just in terms of work and education, but everything!!!"

That's what my lover's mother said when my lover introduced me to his mother. Those words didn't hurt me but I was just embarrassed, I had a woman whose level was much higher than me but I didn't even think about equality for her. Indeed, if love can change and don't care about everything, even able to forget and accept shortcomings and advantages, these words may sound cliche, but if we love someone, we don't care what that person's background is, we only see one thing, he's worth it!!!

Almost eleven years we have been together, for me, she is a great woman, while me? Too bad for him.

Let me introduce myself, Devan, a man who was born into a family that is said to be not simple, much lower than that, but has a partner who is much higher than me. Not only wealth but education is also too far away. For me, I only live once, so enjoy it, not follow it. Until finally I realized that what I did was stupid and weak. I didn't even graduate from the best state high school, I only graduated with an equivalent degree. Meanwhile, he is currently continuing his second degree at a fairly good state campus. From education alone the difference is clear, from wealth? He is studying for a second degree while working in a government office, while I? I'm just a failed musician who works in a small company whose income is two times smaller than his income. My dream since I was little was to become a famous musician, for me to be a musician you don't need higher education, there are many foreign musicians who don't have high education but are successful as musicians. But apparently "not all" because I can't be famous, only famous in small cafes in the city center. There is no label that covers my music. Until the beginning of the age of 18 I stopped playing music and worked in that small company.

We are in this love relationship with long distance status, where he lives outside the island while I live in the city center. Our relationship is very good, romantic and we always keep in touch via cell phone every day, although it's not intense, but every day we always ask about news and tell stories about our daily activities. We meet once every 6 months, he comes to the city center for one to two weeks to meet me, it seems selfish of him who always comes while I never come there, I wanted to go there but he refused because if he came, he You can also visit your aunt and uncle's house who live in the city center so you can not only visit me but also your relatives. Our relationship is very good, in fact we have both been saving since the 6 years of our relationship for marriage savings. Because we both believe that our relationship will indeed lead to marriage, we both accept each other's shortcomings and cover them with our respective strengths.

Until the 9th year he came with his parents to the city center, and that was the first time his parents discussed the clarity of our relationship. I already know his parents, his father works as a painter and is also the village head, while his mother is a lecturer at one of the famous campuses in the area. His parents already know me very well and know the ins and outs of my life. I thought the meeting was only limited to asking about news because he knew that his son had been in a relationship for quite a long time, his father really agreed that we should get married as soon as possible because our relationship had been around for a long time and it was time to move to a more serious level, but his mother opposed us with the words "equal".

"You have been in a relationship for a long time, but for your future (let's call my lover's name Leva), your relationship cannot progress to a more serious level, no matter what, married life cannot only be based on love, but everything, and love is not forever Yes, your differences will eventually break up your household relationship, and I don't want that to happen, it's better for you to separate now before that happens in the future. I know you might not be ready to go that way, but I also know you've saved money to go there, but for me this is not the right decision. I understand that Devan will definitely try and work hard to meet your needs and I know that, but I just want leva to get the best in everything "