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HOWF*CKINGTO: Forget a guy you never dated

Yeah, girl. Look me in the eye and tell me that you never liked/loved a guy you never actually dated and it was harder for you to get over him than to get over any other relationship. 

I'm waiting.

Yeah right. And I'm not even able to judge you, because I'm currently working on the same problem (TWIINS). I liked this guy for three fucking years, this summer I had the most romantic week of my life with him, and then I went on vacation. He ghosted me one week in, and I never talked to him again besides watching the text where he says "sorry I lost interest"????????????????????

Why the fuck do men exist?

Now, I don't know your story with the guy, I don't care if he didn't even know your name, if he was a one-night stand or what, but I know for sure that you think about him every night before falling asleep, and your best friend is sick of you talking about him. That is why I'm going to give you some advice I learned through this three-year self-destructing period, that I think it's coming to an end ( he's probably gonna come back in two months). 

1. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT

I know that you probably think about what you did wrong, but I can assure you that teenage boys are creatures of their own with their own problems, and if you acted like a normal girl ( like maybe avoiding texting him every hour or stalking him everywhere), nothing you did was wrong or too much. 

2. BOYS ARE BOYS

In our teenage years, boys are mentally much younger than girls their age, so, normally, they behave like 13 years old instead of 16 like they actually are. You shouldn't be too surprised if they hit you one night randomly that "they are not ready for a relationship", because they are not able to commit to a girl who is serious and just wants a boy who loves her. They want to explore and sometimes, even if they catch feelings, they try to forget about them and just move on to another girl; sometimes, if you don't give them what they want after a week, they will leave. 

3. KNOW YOUR WORTH

Are you really crying over an immature boy, who doesn't know what he wants and he literally could have YOU and he decided to leave? It's not worth spending your time and energy on someone who doesn't care about you. I know it is not hard to move on from someone in a short time, but you should start thinking about yourself and your mental health. When a boy makes you feel special, even if just for a night, a week, or a moment, you get attached and think "well, it's obvious that we like each other". With boys, that simple reasoning could be impossible until they become twenty.  When a boy hurt me, I started to think that I didn't deserve love, that I was unlovable, and that I would never find the right person for me; but I understood that I'm only a teenager going through her first broken heart, and I have a whole life to find someone who is "the one". That boy had you, and I know that you are beautiful, smart, caring, loving, full of life, and of love to give: that boy wasn't the one, and would you really want to spend your energy on someone who doesn't understand your worth and your true self? I wouldn't, and I know you wouldn't too.

4. DO NOT CONTACT HIM

How many times did you think about sending him a text, calling him, or following him around? How many times did you check his position? How many times did you check his snapscore?

All these little things show you that you're not over him yet, and that is okay. But the thing about no contact is that it actually preserves your dignity. You have been humiliated, and you still want to drunk text him? From my personal experience, if you had a situationship that never actually ended, if you keep your cool and don't show that you still think about him, HE'S GOING TO COME BACK. They always come back. When you're at a party and you think about texting him, give your phone to the homegirls and just don't think about him. When you're at home alone and you miss him, take a book or watch a movie, go for a walk, BUT DON'T CONTACT HIM. Don't post stories or quotes for him, because he is going to show them to his friends and they are all going to laugh about you. When you see him, you can either ignore him or just behave like he is a normal friend to you and just say hi. He's going to be mad that you're not interested in him anymore, trust me. Don't think about him, don't talk about him, don't text him, don't talk to him. Time will heal the scars.

5. DON'T BE JEALOUS

"You saw him at the party with that girl yesterday?" "Oh yeah, I did." "Aren't you jealous?" "Jealous of who? That immature boy that feels a man if he gets another girl every week?" 

That is how every conversation about him should go. Don't talk about him like he is yours, because he never was. Immature boys will always find a new girl the next week. And they are not going to keep her, trust me. He can go with every girl he wants, and YOU can go with every guy you want. That girl isn't you. And he knows that. That boy isn't him. But he doesn't know that, and he must not know that.

6. DELETE EVERYTHING YOU HAVE ABOUT HIM

I'm not saying that you should block him, but all the pictures, texts, tiktoks, and screenshots should be deleted. If you want to keep a memory it's fine, but don't have an album full of his photos. One picture is enough. 

7. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

Watch a rom-com, take a walk, cry, laugh, hang out, go clubbing, drink, smoke, have fun. These are your teenage years, the best years you have, DO NOT WASTE THEN OVER A BOY. Do an everything shower, dress pretty, go grab a drink with the girls, and give yourself a chance to meet other people, other boys, other teenagers. Have fun, don't expect anything and you will receive everything.  They will come at the right time. That is the only thing I'm sure about.