If you're in a relationship, do you still fall for someone else? Like, even when you are with someone, you still dream that that person, perhaps your crush, will still become yours? And you call yourself in love when, in fact, you liked someone else?
What exactly is love?
It's not just one emotion; it's the foundation of different feelings, including joy, passion, tenderness, comfort, security, and faithfulness.
So why do you still fall for someone else even when you're in a relationship?
Because it's not love.
It's infatuation. And it's just a phase. You just love because you enjoy the feeling of being with someone you like. It's often more about how you feel than about the other person. It's fueled by intense physical attraction, a captivating mystery, and the thrill of the new. We don't really love them, we're just attracted to the idea of them being with us. Infatuation is often self-centered. It's about how you feel, not about the other person. It's about the idea of having a partner, not about actually loving that person. It can blind you to red flags. You might overlook flaws or ignore warning signs because you're caught up in the excitement.
But love is more than that.
It's a commitment to nurture and cherish the relationship. It's about more than just choosing someone but also making them feel they're enough. It is about giving and receiving. It's about putting the other person's needs first and building a strong foundation together.
A strong relationship is built on love, not on infatuation.
A relationship built on love endures all things. It opens the door to an endless future with your partner.
This isn't about judging your feelings; it's about understanding them.
Give yourself permission to feel the excitement of infatuation, but don't mistake it for the enduring strength of love.
Take your time, get to know yourself and others, and trust your instincts.
Remember, in infatuation, we're chasing a feeling, not a person.
And you have the power to choose love over infatuation.
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Heart's Compass: Love vs. Infatuation
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