Being Bullied

When start getting bullied , the bulling dose not stop at the end it keeps going and going and never stop unless you tell someone or ask them to stop but might not stop there either .

Where are people bullied?

at work by their manager or co-workers or subordinates, or by their clients (bullying, workplace bullying, mobbing, work abuse, harassment, discrimination)

at home by their partner or parents or siblings or children (bullying, assault, domestic violence, abuse, verbal abuse)

at school (bullying, harassment, assault)

in the care of others, such as in hospital, convalescent homes, care homes, residential homes (bullying, harassment, assault)

in the armed forces (bullying, harassment, discrimination, assault)

by those in authority (harassment, abuse of power)

by neighbours and landlords (bullying, harassment)

by strangers (harassment, stalking, assault, sexual assault, rape, grievous bodily harm, murder)

What is bullying?

constant nit-picking, fault-finding and criticism of a trivial nature - the triviality, regularity and frequency betray bullying; often there is a grain of truth (but only a grain) in the criticism to fool you into believing the criticism has validity, which it does not; often, the criticism is based on distortion, misrepresentation or fabrication

simultaneous with the criticism, a constant refusal to acknowledge you and your contributions and achievements or to recognise your existence and value

constant attempts to undermine you and your position, status, worth, value and potential

where you are in a group (eg at work), being singled out and treated differently; for instance, everyone else can get away with murder but the moment you put a foot wrong - however trivial - action is taken against you

being isolated and separated from colleagues, excluded from what's going on, marginalized, overruled, ignored, sidelined, frozen out, sent to Coventry

being belittled, demeaned and patronised, especially in front of others

being humiliated, shouted at and threatened, often in front of others

being overloaded with work, or having all your work taken away and replaced with either menial tasks (filing, photocopying, minute taking) or with no work at all

finding that your work - and the credit for it - is stolen and plagiarised

having your responsibility increased but your authority taken away

having annual leave, sickness leave, and - especially - compassionate leave refused

being denied training necessary for you to fulfil your duties

having unrealistic goals set, which change as you approach them

ditto deadlines which are changed at short notice - or no notice - and without you being informed until it's too late

finding that everything you say and do is twisted, distorted and misrepresented

being subjected to disciplinary procedures with verbal or written warnings imposed for trivial or fabricated reasons and without proper investigation

being coerced into leaving through no fault of your own, constructive dismissal, early or ill-health retirement, etc

What does bullying do to my health?