My Personal Opinion

The Ex Effect

So for the last year I've been on and off with this guy and we're going to call him Emmit to save him from any angry readers. The beginning of our relationship was fun. We spent every minute with each other and were pretty much inseparable. My best friend and his best friend began to date and we were a family. Then things started to get bumpy. Emmit and I began fighting everyday and that's when I caught him with another girl. Things ended immediately. I was heart broken. Anyone know that feeling? It sucks, let me tell ya.

So a few months later, we started talking and those old feelings popped up again. I forgave him and we gave things another try. That relationship ended even worse. Things were said, foul language was used, and in the end I told him I hated him.

A few weeks later, he was apologizing again. This is where the title "Ex Effect" comes into play. Girls or guys alike, when an ex repeatedly comes into your life, learn from your past mistakes. Don't keep playing the same game over and over. You know how it will end and no matter how hard it is to turn away, it's the best thing to do. Let the past, be the past. You can't repeat it, so don't try to recreate it.

It took me a year, A WHOLE YEAR, to realize that we were in a cycle. Emmit and I, our relationship would stay the same. The fighting, the breakups, the hurting and the heartbreak. Those things would always be a part of our relationship together.

Now don't get me wrong, I love him and will always have a place for him in my heart, as cheesy as that may sound. We made a promise to each other and gave each other everything. That's not something a girl can just let go. And i guess that's why i fought so hard to keep our little family together.

I'm sure there are a lot of girls out there who know what i mean. Hell, there are probably guys out there who know exactly what I'm talking about. Don't let your ex have that affect on you. Move on. It's hard, believe me, but let me give you one last thing to think about.

You love being with this person, right? You love spending time with them and having fun. All of that is great, but how great is it really? When you're fighting, do all of the good times make up for that? How about when you're at home, crying because they cheated on you? I know facing that reality is hard, but it's something everyone needs to realise.

Happiness comes from you and yourself only. Don't let "The Ex Effect" break you over and over. You can move on. Believe in yourself. I do. I believe in ALL of you.

And that's my personal opinion.

Much love,

Nix ♥