How to End a Controlling or Manipulative Relationship?

4. Plan how you'll say it.

4. Plan how you'll say it. The method of delivery is very important when you're dealing with an unstable or controlling person. The most important thing to think about is that if the person is at all violent or if you're truly afraid of how the person will react, then you should give the news in a public place, where you feel safe -- bring a friend if necessary.

- If you really don't even want to face the person, just write him or her a note or email. If it's gotten so bad that you're afraid to talk face to face, then just get out whatever way you can.

- Though once you've decided to end the relationship, you should act quickly, give some thought to the timing. Don't end the relationship after you and/or your partner have been drinking, or in the middle of a very stressful event. Try to pick a time when your partner is likely to be a bit more stable -- even if that isn't saying much.