It Is What It Is

Sometimes you Just gotta let go

Chapter 1

Sometimes You Just gotta let go

"Sometimes you just gotta let go." Don't you just hate when people give you advice like that? I mean like bitch if I could just let go and move the hell along with my life when shit happened don't you think I would have done that? I would be the advocate to the song "Let it go" from the animated movie "Frozen," or at least that would be my approach to everything but obviously it's not that simple. Everyone is obviously not the same and not everyone has the strength, motivation or will to let go of stuff.

I don't like shit to frustrate me. I can't stand people who are negative and I pride myself on being a very open-minded and positive individual, so in that regard I usually try to remain grounded in hostile situations and when push comes to shove if I can't resolve a conflict I simply subtract myself from the equation. I am very prominent on ignoring. I will ignore your ass to death if I find that you are annoying me or acting on my nerves. Aint nobody got time for that.

But I digress, so let me try to get back on track. Like I said, it's not always easy to just let go and move on but sometimes it's the best or most reasonable or logical response or solution to a situation. I've had to learn that the hard way. When you meet certain people in life whom you can relate to or who you just have a very special connection with, it becomes kinda hard to just let go and move on if you reach a rough patch in your relationship with them. It's usually the same for most relationships, whether they are mutual or more personal. Once you have created or built a bond with someone especially over a period of time it's not always easy to just let go.

It's all right to sit around and be depressed for a minute, cry about it, do whatever you have to do to get through the pain but don't stay in that moment too long. Get up and go on with your life. The sooner you get back to your daily routine, the sooner you will get back some normalcy in your life. If somebody wants to walk out of your life, LET THEM GO. Especially if you know that you did everything you could possibly do to make things work. You maybe tried to be the best man, woman or friend that you could be and they still wanted to leave.... Then.... let them go. Whatever they're running after, they'll see what they had in time to come, but by then it's gonna be too late.

It's hard to let go of people in the heat of the moment. In those moments when you're in your feelings and you're so emotionally invested that just the thought of not having that person in your life makes it unbearable to breathe or function properly. Those are the moments that make your situation feel hopeless, like you won't ever be able to move on, but that's all it is....... a momentary phase of hopelessness and like every similar moment... it too will pass. Often when we finally get over our temporary phases of hopelessness, we tend to look back and wonder "What the hell was I thinking?"

Speaking from experience I've been there. I've looked back and found myself asking "what was wrong with me? What was I going through? I must have been lonely as hell to hook up with you," or "How the hell were we ever friends in the first place?" Sometimes it's just a matter of giving yourself time to get out of the feelings that may be clouding your judgement and to find a new perspective. A new outlook on what your situation really is and how you can learn from it and eventually move on from it. I've had friendships that I thought were unbreakable. I literally thought that nothing in this world could have broken certain bonds that I had with certain people but when life showed its ass or rather when THEY showed theirs, I realized that even the strongest of bonds are indeed breakable after all.

Looking back now, I guess its "human" to say that I have a few regrets or that "if I only knew then what I know now," then maybe things would have been different but I am grateful for my fallouts and my mishaps and I'm actually grateful for those experiences because I DO know now what I didn't know then and it's made a hell of a difference in the way that I associate with people, who I trust, what I share about myself or my life and basically its taught me that people and things have a tendency to switch up on your ass when you least expect it.