Endearment x Amaryllis

Introduction 

Inspirational quote to think about as you read.

"The most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why" - Mark Twain

In this book you will read and be enlightened by finding out what love is and how you can deal with selfishness in your relationship. With the following, I will explain faithfulness falling in line with loyalty. And after, you will read about a flower that deals with all those qualities " the lotus flower ". The lotus is known to be associated with purity, read more to find out ! When you get into pages seven through thirteen you will be very amazed about the true stories of relationships that dealt with break up, selfishness, loyalty, and just being there for the relationship. Taking you to a kinda different mood telling you the difference between how men treat woman and how woman treat men. Sliding into a opinionated conversation with being homosexual and in a relationship. In this case bringing up a discussion about sex, losing your virginity, fearing sex, making love, and regular sex. Ending with at least five scriptures you may look into on your spare time. They have been chosen by the different topics that are included in the book.

Chapter 1 

What is love ? Love is expressed as an action and experienced as a feeling. What is the opposite of love ? Opposite of love is selfishness. Well, what is selfishness ? Selfishness is devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits. You may ask yourself why don't relationships last. Couples, families, and even friendships don't last due to selfishness. One mate maybe known of their imperfections and the other may not realize their flaws. And things are all down hill after two weeks, five months, three years. If you don't have love for yourself you can not expect to show love to someone else when you don't know how to give it. Now a days todays society is so afraid of being rejected or alone, feeling unworthy and unlovable, some people don't understand the word love because they feel it has things to do as far as attachment, SEXUAL ATTRACTION, dependency. Movies that people may watch or songs we listen to shows us that love hurts and some love can be good and come can be worst. Some may also get the word love confused with " like ". You can like something an don't love it at all. Liking is a very superficial emotion toward something or someone. When I hear things about other couples like their problems, I have to back up and ask myself well what did that person do wrong instead of who they are bashing. Many people love each just for what that other mate can do or provide for them. The worst feeling is when you feel used and neglected. Happiness can not be bought, asked for it's another emotion that's suppose to move you to do something. When a person feel like royalty and nobody can stand in their way you'll tell by the body language an speech of your mate. Self mates often suffer from insufficient. The insufficient feeling run so deep in them that they feel ashamed. The way they hide and not show it is by being " still " or having " stillness " toward the relationship. Giving makes them feel kinda isolated and threatening towards a lover, so they worry in how to get out of things before matters get worst before being revealed. For the selfish mate love is like a scant feeling. To help that situation or better help yourself, find other places to invest your loving energy other than the cases some selfish mates never change their ways. But it effect the relationship tremendously leaving a change stuck forever sometime. To try and help save this type of relationship will need major council and therapy. Some are better off not staying with the selfish mate and is advisable to end. In some cases some selfish mates never change their ways. But it effect the relationship tremendously leaving a change stuck forever sometime. Let's try and think of nine different ways you can save your selfish relationship, one give yourself attention you deserve, two stay true to yourself and don't ever stoop down to their level, three remind your mate that the world they live in doesn't revolve around them, four let them crave your attention you stopped giving, five bring up topics that interest you, six stop doing all favors for them, seven limit the time you spend together, eight seek better friends and nine if see no change end the relationship. The word faithfulness is describe to be true to ones word, promises, vows. There might be times to where you had to make decisions and you were faithful or you had to bite into a poison apple. Most people think you can have loyalty an no faith in the relationship. Remember that theres other people you will be attracted to. You have to understand not to many people are good in bed you know what I'm saying. When you think of that person you look at them like a best friend or even a soul mate. People in relationships with low faith may need to find space for their self instead of with that particular person. Go to a quiet room or even your bathroom so that you can find peace. Never stop expressing the love you have for your mate remain the same and stick to what ever goal you want to reach in your relationship. There are probably a million things you can name that you don't have control of like your thoughts, being thankful, and your decision making choices. Love and faithfulness may even sound like humdrum. Some feel people who are married and that have love and faithfulness have such an advantage in their relationship. Being in a good environment with the one you say you love consult huge benefits on other people. The result of faithfulness if you do things right and love your mate you can have a peace of mind beyond your understanding. You will have chronicle happiness which I think everyone deserves in their love life and them selves. You may arise a strong confidence in yourself and especially in your relationship. When you and your mate have a deep and strong love to where you guys get lost in your own conversations kinda make you feel like a fairy tale. Having a stable and sustainable mate by your side no matter what. Drama is something you don't & your mate do not need. And an incomparable sex life. Also having dreams and goals set in life for your future and not just the present. Because later in life you will find that you will need plans to fall back up on. For the beautiful woman reading this : you may have your dream guy and that's fine but let's take a step back and look at what you might think woman look for in a guy. Someone who is faithful, loyal, a person who can make a mistake and he actual learns from it and mans up to them, having a real love, a connection with one another, an amazing wise, smart, out going, helpful to others type of guy. A guy who can take care of the house whole, have a car, a job of course, have his life in order, clean up, prepare dinner, make sure bills are paid on time, take you on dates, spoil you, spend quality time, have those deep convention, go on vacation. For a lot of women, all that is very is easy to do but don't understand why for men it's so hard. Maybe it's not meant to know because if you really understood the men fully and his point of view you may think different. And then you have the other side women that don't wanna know and don't wanna understand and just find better that treat them with more worth. For the guys who is reading this : If you feel you found your true love, you can trust and build with and give your faithfulness to go for it keep her. Settle down and realize that people like that particular woman don't come around but every so often. Any girl can give you sex, any girl can have a big butt and nice breast, but ask yourself do and will she ever love me ? Settle down and give her your love and love her and only her. Be faithful to your woman and watch doors open in every other area in your potential beautiful life. You will concur barriers that you couldn't really get pass by yourself. You will finally have happiness and believe in yourself and even more so clarity. Trust me. I'm not here to tell you how to live and deal with things that goes on in your love life. I want every human to experience and desire to feel what love really is when you have two committed people. It's common now a days that loyalty plays a very important role in relationships. Being loyal is defined as being faithful to ones oath, engagement, obligation. Loyalty comes from being devoted to one another. At times people are unaware when there not being loyal. Being loyal can blend with respecting your mate. Siding with your mate shows loyalty. Keeping your word is very important because that's how you know when you can trust each other. Loyalty is something that is earned, grown over a certain amount of time. You can't just gain loyalty in two days. To be loyal you have to strength and keep it real and value your friends or mate. I wouldn't ever try and test someone's loyalty only because it back fires. Think of reasons why you need that person what can they do to benefit you. Talk to, listen to, hug with, help out and much more. Demonstrate loyalty by not making the same mistake more than once or twice. Trust in all aspects in your ability to be loyal. You will need to be able to face life together. Make your mate comfortable and confident stepping out with you where every you are. You can both together grow and rise talents you never thought you could achieve. And with that ability you may be potentially help other couples in their relationship. The impact on you guys relationship could brighten others also. Twenty eight percent of married men and eighteen percent of married women said they have been unfaithful to their mate. Loyal couples turn to each other first, many are an open book to one another. And being mature about situations makes you guys even loyal. Because you can't always kid and play when it come down to certain situation. Let's settle with the word " happiness " and what it has to deal with in a relationship. Happiness the quality of something or someone or state of being happy. Many of us have learned in our early years of life that others may determine our happiness. Do you feel this is true or false ? Truth is you make your self happy. You determine how much you going to be happy. It can be difficult to decide which emotion moves us as humans but you can always control and figure out what does make you happy. I often ask myself "what makes relationships successful ?" I could never answer that question because you determine what makes it happy or not. You will face trials and tribulations. Trust me adversity will be thrown at you to try and see if your really willing to handle certain things you go through in your relationship. Things you may think about while trying to find your happiness. Make sure you have your mate full undivided attention, find ways to say those three word " I love you " without actually saying " I love " , be a all in team player, communicate and talk to one another about your feelings such a love, stress, personal life, and any thing that may bother you or make you feel uncomfortable. Create goals together as one, not relationship goals life goals things you can set yourself up for now, act romantic and you will be romantic. Pursue things that confident you in all aspects of life. So many couples have that particular issue that their faced with. They may have the same fights over expenses, parents or children, family and friends, sex or a trillion more things. Couples in my opinion I feel sometimes need a get away trip its strongly needed. Sometimes taking a vacation is the best way to have those run away feeling about the things holding you back. The benefits of traveling would be to share unforgettable moments you spent with each other. You could also discover different parts of your personality you wouldn't find at home. Traveling with you mate will also improve intimacy and sex life. It's also nice to widen out and venture different states and city's you might've never had a clue on what you would discover. Try and find your mates challenges on that trip his/her frustrations, and sudden change of course. It's also nice to add a little cuddle buddy on those long plane or car rides. Remember that nothing unifies a couple more than talk and companionship.