Advice to the muslimah's

Marriage ( don't we all love this topic).

Salam , my ukhtimas! 

its been a very long time since i updated , alot has been going on in my life right now, but alhamduilillah,  i made a time to update for you lovelies!

oh if you haven't pray please do so , the book could wait, insh'allah.

Alright , let's stop for a minute and be honest , everyone of us dreamed of meeting their prince charming . trust me i do.

But before we get to have all that lovey dovey stuff like the movies and books said , are we ready to take the responsibility's of being a wife and a mother , in full time?

                                                  Marriage in general:

Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high "taqwa" / "Iman". The prophet (s.w.a.)  said, "Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me".

Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.

It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.

                                                               Marriage to family cousin.

Ahhhh, Trust  me , marrying my cousin is not something that i am a fan of , but islam truly belives in it and so i wouldn't complain either . its not a bad thing but to me cousin's  seems like a family and to think about him like a husband is a hard thing to get used to . 

  Allah says: "O Prophet! We have made lawful to thee the wives to whom thou hast paid their dowers; and those whom thy right hand possesses out of the captives of war whom Allah has assigned to thee; and daughters of thy paternal uncles and aunts, and daughters of thy maternal uncles and aunts, who migrated with thee; ..."

Allah has made marriage with first cousins lawful. There is no dispute about this in Islamic Law. Anyone who wishes to dispute with this is placing his own religion in serious danger.

we're all probably thinking , his like a brother , or we're so close , that's how i feel to . but truly its not look at it this way. if you wear niqab or hijab, when your cousin come to your house do you immediately run to your room and cover everything up? and if it was your brother would you even bother to cover up. if you answer yes to the first question then you just answer your enquires about lawful marriage with you cousin .

                                                                       the beautiful story of Zainab( daughter of prophet mohammed (S.W.A. ( may peace and blessing of Allah be upon her)    

  Before the Prophet SAW had received his mission of Prophethood, Abu Al Aas one day came to him. He had a request and with an earnest and hopeful voice, he said:
"I wish to marry your eldest daughter."
The Noble Prophet Muhammad SAW graciously replied: "I must ask her first."
So he went to sit with his dear daughter Zainab and casually broached the subject, "Your cousin came to see me today and he wishes to marry you. How do you feel about this? And would you accept him as your husband?"

  So similar in nature and disposition to her father, Zainab remained silent and her beautiful young face turned red out of bashfulness but... she smiled. A smile indicating her acceptance.

Zainab was married to Abu al-'Aas and so began the tale of a great love story. Their union was blessed with two children, Ali and Umaymah.

As we could see zanaib blushed from the thought of marrying her cousin because she was excited, she didn't think like oh he is like a family so i must not marry him.

how do you like it ?

should i continue ?

Also i'm working on a new story , and i'm still deciding whether to post it or not, but insha'allah its coming soon.

Until next time my sweet cheeck!!!!

Masalam.