Mutual Understanding

My Lavender

Oh boy... After a few years I was able to reflect on my work from when I was still an immature and a bitter 14 year old boy who didn't get to win his crush's heart.

There was a lot of mistake on the previous page so I decided to edit some of its part because it was too
cringey and has misleading information. Well.. you can't blame a 14 year old boy whose experiencing his first heartbreak as his crush suddenly got into an MU relationship with her classmate. At least he's grown up now and is in a relationship (finally!) and has learned a lot through experience but is yet to face more challenges in his life. That's me! haha...

and so... what do I think about Mutual Understanding now? When I was a kid, I thought that MU is a bad stage in romantic relationship. But now I think it's an essential part of relationship, it is not a stage in relationship, it is not a status. It is an act, you see, mutual understanding is the act of having sympathy for each other and whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.

So I think whether you both are boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, not official, or no label, having a mutual understanding with that person is very important for the relationship to work.

I always thought of MU as something that is a status or stage in relationship that has no future and does not move forward when I was a kid.

MU is an act which is important in a romantic relationship as it requires you to understand and have sympathy for each other so I don't think that it is merely a stage in relationship anymore.

= MU is also different from courtship =
||> Traditionally, courtship is when a person tries to win the heart of someone, this takes weeks or months.. sometimes years.

||> Courtship is also believed to be a stage before you become official (boyfriend and girlfriend).

||> Sometimes a person already won his/her heart but still courts him/her and I think that's sweet and wholesome.

||> I know some people say that they not go through courtship stage and they eventually become official and that is complete fine, if everyone is happy then that's a good sign.

||> For me, courtship starts immediately after you start winning the heart of the one you like and asking someone's permission to court is not a must do. It simply depend on the person and traditions surrounding you, it helps sometimes.

||> There's also a case where a person already won her/his heart but still wants to be courted and I should say, it is completely fine! Some people want to experience special things for a reason or because it might only happen once in their life, it's not wrong to want to be happy.

||> Courtship can also happen even if you are married which is very nice so don't lose hope if you were not able to experience it early on.

Now.. how did I get from MU to courtship? I dont really know, I just wrote what's on my mind and how I view things, Thank you for taking your time to read this. Maybe.. just maybe I'll come back to this and proceed to make page 3 in the next 5-10 years when I am 25 years old. ciao