I am Poly: A Guide for Non Monogamous Relationships and Life

Polyamory and Monogamy

What is Polyamory? What does it mean?
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, "many, several", and Latin amor, "love") is t he practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships involving more than two people, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It has been described as "consensual, ethical,and responsible non-monogamy".[1] The term should not be confused with polysexuality (attraction towards multiple genders or sexes), although the two may overlap in individuals.

Polyamory is not to be confused with cheating. Polyamory is so 100% consensual and you should not force anyone into a Poly relationship. A proper poly relationship involves a lot of communication. In fact this is what Morethantwo.com had to say:

Dos and don'ts for happy polyamorous relationships

Pragmatic advice on things likely to help your relationships work

Guidelines to consider when managing polyamorous relationships
Polyamory adds a significant layer of complexity atop the already complex job of managing a romantic relationship. Building good poly relationships doesn't happen by accident; in addition to the normal challenges anyone in a traditional relationship will face, polyamory offers a few challenges of its own.

This is a simple guide to some of the "dos and don'ts" of polyamorous relationships. Of course, you'll need the relationship skills that go along with any intimate interpersonal relationship as well!

Don't coerce your relationships into a predefined shape; let them be what they are
Sometimes, people—particularly people who are already part of an established couple—decide what kind of relationship they want, what form that relationship will take, and then try to fit a person into that space.

People are complex, and every person will have his or her own ideas and desires and needs in a relationship. Trying to force a person in a box—for example, trying to say, "You can only date both of us and you have to develop a relationship with both of us that's exactly the same and grows in exactly the same way"—rarely works. Instead, treat your relationships in a way that respects what they are. Give each person a voice; you are having a relationship, not looking for spare parts! Listen to what the relationship is telling you, instead of trying to force it to be something specific.

Don't keep score
Often, we may be tempted to try to turn multiple relationships into a tallying game—"You slept with her two nights in a row, now you need to sleep with me two nights in a row!" "You took him to dinner three times, but only took me to dinner once!"

Fairness and compassion are worthwhile goals in any relationship, but as anyone who's ever been a child knows, sometimes things don't work exactly the way we expect them to. "Danny, do the dishes!" "But I did the dishes last night, it's my sister's turn tonight!" "Yes, but your sister is sick in bed tonight." "It's not FAIR!"

Fairness operates on a global level, not a local level; there may be times when one partner, for whatever reason, is going through a crisis or is facing problems or for whatever reason needs more support and attention. As long as that support is available to all the people in the relationship when they need it, it's not a question of keeping score.

And while we're on the subject...

Do understand that your needs have nothing directly to do with your partner's other partner
It's usually more helpful to ask "Am I getting what I need?" rather than "Am I getting the same things as my partner's other partner?" Not everyone has the same needs, and happiness is found more easily in having your needs met than in having the same things as the people around you. In fact, I think the goal of a relationship should be in seeking to have your relationship needs met in a way that's fulfilling, not in achieving parity with everyone else.