You.
I'm going to need you to read this very carefully. The number 1 way we lose ourselves is by leaving ourselves to find happiness in someone who can never give it to us. It's not their fault, it's ours for not realizing that it is not the responsibility of anyone other than ourselves to make us happy.
As I tell you this I am telling myself as well. I have been telling myself this for many years and let me tell you till now some days its 10x harder than it was when I first started. This shit is not easy. We are constantly looking for things outside of ourselves to fill our huge gaping voids that are a result of our trauma. I don't care who you are or how great your childhood may have been, you have in some shape or form experienced trauma by simply existing on planet earth. Each one of us has a huge purpose.
Each one of us is here for a very important reason. And I'll tell you this, you will never realize this until you start to love yourself for everything you are - scars, darkness, and all the fucked up shit that comes with being human. LOVE those parts of yourself, it is the only way to heal them. And please do not mistake that for a end goal, or a destination, or eternal happiness. We have to realize that pain is a part of existence but it is up to us to CHOOSE how we want to expeirence it. We have a choice. You are not powerless in the face of your demons. Love them too. Love everything about yourself.
Quit looking for validation in others. Quit abandoning yourself to save someone else. We fool ourselves into believing we want to save someone who hurts us just to distract ourselves from the wounds we should really be healing - OUR OWN. You are fucking strong enough to do it. Pack up, move on, put on your love armor, and focus on you and your dreams. Don't know what they are? Find out, just start, somewhere, anywhere.
You got this. You are a boss warrior.
