There are two stages of becoming elegant, starting first from the workings of inner elegance, because true elegance starts from within.
Everyone knows somebody elegant.
She could be a celebrity. That girl who seems to have it all together. The one with all the designer clothes and bags. The soft spoken girl who speaks eloquently.
She could be who you want to be.
We express this hope in many ways. We buy the nicest things that inspire elegance, dress our best and carry designer bags. Does that mean we are elegant? Not necessarily so.
🌸 Two Stages Of Acquiring
An Elegant Self Confidence 🌸
What are the two stages of acquiring an elegant self confidence?
They can be loosely represented by the insides (heart) and outsides (your personal grooming, your walk, posture, poise etc)
I believe we first start from the inside.
Jesus of the Bible says, "You blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also." Matthew 23:26
(The Pharisees were hypocrites, fakes)
True to what the Bible says, once we have dealt with the 'inside' (your heart), the rest of the workings of an elegant self confidence will become an ease.
🌸 Kindness Rules 🌸
There are many different definitions of elegance.
On Elegantwoman.org, elegance is defined as 'graciousness in action.'
An elegant woman is a gracious woman.
She is gracious at all time. In her impatience, she will not resort to shoving others out of her way in a crowded train. It doesn't matter if she looks elegant and speaks the part, she is not truly elegant if she is not considerate as well.
The way to be gracious?
Love others, value and esteem others. Treat everyone the same, regardless of social status, looks, speech, education. Do not save your best manners for certain people only. Genuinely care and put others first. Instead of telling people about yourself, listen to others and let them talk about themselves.
🌸 Be Yourself, Be Authentic 🌸
As cliche as it may sound, to be elegant, you have got to be authentic. Real.
Inauthentic Elegance
I've seen friends try to be elegant by wearing pearl necklaces, social-climb, become food connoisseurs, show off designer bags, speak Prada amongst a hundred things.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. While all that is personal preference, one is not truly elegant that way. She may appear elegant, know all the lingo, but is far from elegant. Her facade will wear off, say in a fit of anger. Or you may see her sponging off others. Shoving others in a rude way on a crowded train. Bad-mouthing others.
