Essay I Wrote On Gay Marriage

9-30-13

Imagine a World…

Imagine your parents yelling at you that you need to talk. Imagine how unbelievably nervous that made you feel. Now imagine that situation reversed imagine having to tell your parents something big. You walk to the table and sit down across them ringing your hands out nervously as you tried to find the right words. Your parents waited patiently as you put your thoughts together and with your face still turned down to look at your lap you mumble “Mom, Dad I have to tell you something important and I’d really like your support in it?” the words coming out as more of a question than a statement. Your parents nod as your mom takes your hand and squeezes it “of course honey” she replied. You take a deep breath and let the words tumble out “Mom, dad, I’m gay…” you whisper knowing they heard. In a perfect world you hope that your mom squeezes your hand and your dad smiles at you “that’s perfectly okay baby” they’d say.

But it’s not always a perfect world. Imagine this, “Mom, dad, I’m gay…” you whisper as you feel your mom rip her hand out of yours a disgusted look on her face. Your dad glares at you nothing but disgust and hate crowding his features now as he stares you down. “Now you know that’s not funny” he says watching you for any sign of a joke. “Dad I’m not kidding I seriously am-” you start but your mom cuts you off with a wail “what did I do to deserve this!?” she screams angry now “I thought I did everything right I don’t deserve a fag as a child I don’t deserve this!” she screams standing up and storming out. Your father stares you in the eyes, your own eyes pleading tears flooding them now as you practically beg him not to hate you. “No you have to go, I can’t have a disgrace and a sinner in my house you need to be gone by tomorrow” he says as he gets up without another glance and walks away. Turning his back on you and everything you ever had he walked away leaving you to break down in tears on the table wishing you could’ve been born normal, been born straight like they wanted. That’s just the thing though. The sad but true truth, you can’t chose to be straight, like they don’t chose to be gay.

Imagine feeling the pain as you pulled your suitcases out the door to your car looking back at what was once the house you were welcome in while your parents glared at you, arms crossed, through the window. You didn’t get a good bye no tears, no sympathy, and definitely no regret in their features as you were forced to drive away from your family and your home. Maybe you’re lucky and you have a friend to stay with who accepts you but not everyone does. You may have to travel for hours to find a hotel you can afford or an apartment building near your job so you have to stay in a beat down place. That still is considered lucky imagine living out of your car or in a tent at a park every night only a few blankets for warmth.

Being gay isn’t a choice but it sure can be accepted. The law against gay marriage to me is unfair, it puts the superstition that gay is wrong into the brains of many people, changes the views of others. It forces you to pick a side for or against and we assume it means completely but honestly you should just have to be for their happiness to be for it.

I have many friends who are gay and I love them, they are amazing people, and they shouldn’t ever have to go through this kind of pain, no one should. No one should have to be executed because they like the same sex, yet more than half of the countries in the world execute you for it. Being gay should be no different than having black skin or speaking French or being a woman, we are all people and we should all have the same rights.

If you thing being gay is wrong because the bible says so, what ever happened to the separation of church from state? You should be able to vote on what’s right for the people not based on your religious views. We are legalizing the use and distribution of Marijuana all over the United States, so why is legalizing gay marriage worse than giving kids another drug choice.

Being gay isn’t lethal, being around gay people doesn’t kill you, smoking, that kills you. How can you even begin to legalize things like smoking when you still believe being gay is so wrong, so against being human, you shouldn’t have the right to choose or force these people to choose between family, state, and love, that an unfair choice.

The government can’t expect us not to sympathize if you really think about it, even if you despise gay people is this really all that bad, you don’t have to associate with them. Sure you don’t want to see them making out in the streets but be honest do you really want to see a straight couple swapping spit as you walk down the road either. It’s the same concept in different terms.

 Imagine a world with no fighting, where everyone is accepted and everyone is equal, can you see it? I can’t, yes I said can’t. I can’t see a world like that ever being a possibility if we don’t try to see others for who they are accept them as people and love and embrace them. It won’t be easy but hell who told you life was easy.

Bullying is a huge deal in America right now, we have campaigns and anti-bullying videos to try and stop bulling before it happens. Honestly though if you thing about it aren’t we all bullying gays by not letting them be happy with who they please. Don’t we bully them into thinking they are no good, that what they are is wrong. They can’t change who they are and we sure as hell can’t change them either.

 Imagine someone walking up to you and saying I don’t like the way your heart beats change it. Physically that isn’t possible is it? Well did you ever think that this is basically what we are asking gay people to do? Change your heart, because we don’t like the way it beats.