Hearts Notes

How to Heal

Marveling when will you be okay; That after 15 weeks of overflowing pain and contending to be fine, tubs and tubs of different flavors of ice cream, and even the romantic movies you watched more than once.. how  can you really be sure that you’re back in track?

You have to remember this, You’re hurt and been hurt; Yes. . but you never stop functioning, breathing, eye battling and lips thinning.

You are still YOU.

There no such thing as short cuts when you want to move on. You can’t just wish for some amnesia to come and delete selected memories.  You can’t even just start a day rearranging what happened in your life.

A part of you, needs to grow up. Think of it as a reason why we met certain person to pulled us from our closets.  He might be a blessing or a lesson. The important piece of this song is that, that particular person round ourlives and brought us new rhythm that makes us stronger individuals.

From personal experience, what can I say? You have to help yourself if you want to be okay. In order to move on, you need to do the following:

Acknowledge the Pain.

                Embrace what you feel. Accept it that You’re hurting. You have to let your body recognized that heart wrecking thing. You have to let it know, like a person, that you’re hurt and you need the help itself to make the pain go away.

Understand Why it Happened

                It takes two to tango. The thing that must hurt the most is to know that You’re holding on too much, never knowing that the other person already lets go. It might hurt like nothing else; but you have to open your eyes and let yourself see the flashbacks, put it in you playlist in repeat tab and make yourself realized what gotten wrong. The moment you  understand what is it to be in his shoes, or why your  relationship ended.. You’ll find it better to breathe. Cause after all, all you’re looking for is just a reason.

Accept everything

From the fairy-tale you once create falling into avalanche, leaving you alone and finding enough understanding why the “two become one” never works, the next thing you need is to accept. Accepting what happened. Maybe God is just busy writing the best story for you. Maybe, he’s just part of  the characters that will mold you so that when the man out of billion that awaits for you comes, all he need to do is to love you. Certain things happens for a certain  reason. Accept your fate. Draw another line after the first ends.

Forgive them

                You can and you will, you might just say you won’t ever forgive them now.. but soon you’ll just won’t forgive them, you sure will hug and thank them.

                We made in God’s love, so that we can’t loathe certain person forever. Deny it or not, that person holds a piece of us that only they can have. Either we like it or not, either we swear or promise, or even curse not to- we obviously will look at them one day, and smiles at them. We’ll thank them for being part of ourlives.

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Sometimes, we’re creating line ourselves and think of it as our own love story that shall never end; we’re tending to think of solution to a difficult equation which only results to undefined answer. We never realized how Math tells us of the 3 saddest love stories: 

Of parallel lines, who were never meant to meet.

Of tangent lines, who were together once then parted forever.

And of asymptotes, who could only get closer and closer, but never could be together.