I used to mark how many times my father would get drunk and pass out. I would say to myself "If he gets drunk ten times when I'm over, I will confront him and leave" but that never happen. The marks would get way over ten in to the double digits. I would be too scared to confront my own father in fear he would get angry and hit me. This happened for years every time I went to stay with him, and it never changed an ongoing process.