How to deal with being Lesbian

Chapter 10: How to deal with a break-up

There is no real way to deal with a break-up, because everyone deals with the loss of a love one differently. Your partner may not be dead but hurts just like losing a love one to death. Things would never be the same.

6 Things to do when you break-up:

1) Unfriend or block them on all your social media accounts because it will just haunt you seeing all their posts and they may deliberately post things to hurt you because in the end of the day people can be cruel.

2) Let all those feelings out. Take the time off and let them out, don't bottle them up. Let the anger out. Scream your head off. Cry all it out where you can cry no more.

3) Work through your issues, your feelings. Learn to understand your feelings.

4)Control your feeling, try to bring yourself back to reality. Try to think positive and the future. Look ahead and not behind.

5) Spend time with loved ones. People who make you happy. Do things that make you happy.

6) Turn your lost into a life experience. Learn from your mistakes. Let it build up into a better version of you.

7 Things you don't do when you break-up:

1) Don't stay friends on social media, or friends in general. It never works out.

2) Don't text them. Have no contact with them. Definitely, don't drunk text them. It makes you look pathetic and it you are making a show of yourself. Text your friend instead.

3) Don't isolate yourself from people.

4) Don't go out having sex with strangers or go into new relationships so soon. You need time to recover. It is not healthy going into new encounters with new people when just out of the relationship. You need time for you heart to heal.

5) Don't drink or drug yourself up to numb the pain because it is not helping the problem it is creating a new major problem for you. It will be only suppressing the feelings temporarily because they will surface at some stage.

6) Don't constantly talk about them, because it holding on the feelings. I know it's a hard but try to not talk about them and soon you won't think of them.

7) NEVER get back with them! I mean NEVER because you broke up for a reason, that reason is most likely still there. You may think you worked it out, that may not be the case. You probably just shoved under the rug for another day. Yes, they said they have changed but a tiger never changes its stripes. If they cheated they'd most likely do it again. If they lied they are still a liar. If they beat you around, they aren't sorry and they'd do again. You probably see situations in other people's relationships but you are blind to your own. If you have broken up, most likely for a good reason, by getting back together it going the same road twice and you break up again you have to go through the same heartache again. The heartache that you could of have healed by then.