To take a break from all the deep phase stuff, I thought I should throw in a fun How to chapter.
Flirting is my favorite part of crushes. It's fun (when done right), exhilarating, and when other people flirt to you it feels good! Flirting is not a crime and it's perfectly normal and ok, if done correctly and SAFELY.
That's the key, safe. Make sure you're flirting and not hurting.
Hurting
I know too many people who don't know how to express their emotions and end up hurting people they like because of it. Whether they ask for nudes (I will write a chapter on this), defame other people to look cool in front of their crush or even defame their crush to a point as a twisted form of flirting. Most of all, don't defame yourself. Your confidence is your most attractive feature. Just don't do it if you wouldn't want it done to you and make sure you're always being K I N D.
Ok, now for the fun stuff.
How do I know when to flirt?
This is completely up to you. I can't tell you that you should start flirting a month after talking to someone. Do whatever makes you comfortable.
If I like someone and talk to them, I wait a little bit to see if they have developed any deeper feelings for me before flirting because I fear rejection like many and am worried that my flirts won't be reciprocated.
Sometimes, they won't be, and that's ok. Taking risks is good so don't be afraid to jump right into it before you see any blatant displays of emotion from them to you.
To start out, you might want to drop small flirts and see what response you get from them.
I have a few good examples of this that I have personally experienced.
Example #1
I was snap chatting this guy I liked once during the summer and I put the fire emoji next to my face or something dumb like that. I don't remember too well but he said something along the lines of "Why did you put that" or something like that. I responded with "Because I'm hot lol" and he responded with "I second that"
I almost had a seizure. At first I wasn't sure if he meant he was hot too as in temperature or he was saying that I was hot.
But this was a really good starter flirt. It was mysterious and I wasn't sure what he meant by it which means that it could be interpreted many ways if you don't want to be too obvious. (Happy ending to the story: He actually did like me and we still flirt a lot. I'm going to be talking about this guy a lot throughout the book)
Example #2
I like to draw and post everything that I do (successfully) draw on my snapchat story.
This kid in my class (who I do not like in any romantic way) had recently added me on snapchat and commented on my story and I was quite the rebel and screenshotted the conversation for you.
*Excuse crappy text grammar and language I swear that's not how I write*
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Again, I kind of took the hint that he was flirting with me and could've acted on it with a "You're only complimenting me because you get compliments so much" or something cheesy like that.
Later he admitted to me that he liked me and that's a long story so I'm just going to stop there.
So don't jump right into full blown flirting, just drop some subtle hints and see if they are reciprocated.
Flirting
Once you're ready and get past the awkward phase, you can get into the good stuff.
Flirting comprises mostly of compliments when you really get down to it.
So tell that special someone that they're cute and have nice eyes and other mushy gushy gross stuff like that. Find interesting places in your conversation to drop these little compliments.
Finding places to flirt is kind of like reverse roasting. I'm sure that you always find opportunities to roast your friends in conversations so do the same things with crushes, just flirt instead of roast.
Example of a roast:
Friend: A worm is the ugliest thing I've ever seen. You: Then you have obviously never seen yourself.
Example of a reverse roast:
Crush: The butterfly was the prettiest thing I have ever seen. You: Then you have obviously never seen yourself.
Get it?
Sexting
Sexting is a very extreme form of flirting that is not for the faint of heart.
CONFESSION: I sext the guy from story #1 more than I would like to admit and it might just be more fun than flirting.
But sexting isn't for everyone. It's not something to casually drop to people that you like that may or may not like you back. I know people that aren't as dirty as I am and hate even mentioning stuff like that so don't sext unless you have permission from the person you're doing it with.
Personally, I would never actually do any of the things I would sext because hellooooo I'm a teenager and too young for all of that stuff but it's still fun to talk about.
Key word talk.
Please please please don't send nudes. Don't ask for nudes, just stay away from them. I will explain why later but just stay away and you will not be disappointed.
I would rather you see "it" (whatever "it" is for you) in real life than over the internet.
So that's flirting for you! If you have any questions or chapter requests, don't hesitate to comment or message me!
