Okay, so my friend isn't here with me tonight, but I will try my best to give you guys some advice. This time, the chapter will be for boys and what some girls want. NOT ALL GIRLS WILL WANT THE SAME THINGS! You have to understand this. I am just writing what my friends and I would want. IT'S NOT EVERY GIRL IN THE WORLD WHO WOULD WANT THESE THINGS!!! Anyways, hope it helps! (#5 and up my friend was here helping me.)
Rule #1 : Listen to her when she is talking!
Okay, I think almost every girl wants this. When she is talking to you, don't ignore her or just stare off into space. Girls like it when you actually listen. If she's telling you something, it means that she trusts you with it and is confident that you will listen and help her with it. If it's gossip, I don't blame you if you don't listen. If I were you, I'd just nod my head and pretend that I was listening to the gossip. Sorry, but I don't like listening to gossip. Anyways, all you have to do is listen to her. Simple as that.
Rule #2 : Ask a girl out face to face!
In the previous chapter, I told the girls to not say yes to boys if they asked out over technology. Now, I am telling you that you should ask them out face to face. Most girls find it cute when a guy seems shy or stumbles on his words. That just proves to us that you have guts and actually like us. (I seriously find it cute when boys are shy and I know so do a lot of girls.)
Rule #3 : Presents?
Ok, I know boys have a tough time trying to get presents that your girlfriend will like. I am here to tell you, I've seen it plenty of times, my boyfriend has troubles with getting a present for me. Some girls don't mind just getting chocolate because A LOT of girls like chocolate. Even getting girls candy is greatly advised! Some other options are getting her a beautiful bracelet or even a necklace. I mean, just some simple things are really cute!
Rule #4 : Never ask a girl or her friends if she is PMSing.
Ok, so my boyfriend asked me this once because I wasn't all happy like I usually was. I wasn't happy because I was feeling sick all day. So, since I was having a bad day, knowing that he asked one of my friends that was not very uplifting. I have to admit that I was a little embarrassed that he would ask one of my best friends that so she would ask me. So, boys, this just goes to show you, if you ever think a girl, outside of your family, is PMSing, DO NOT comment on it. Don't ask her friends either because she will find out that you did.
Rule #5 : Give Her Flowers. Her FAVORITE Flowers.
Most girls love getting flowers. Even if it's just over a little thing such as you were just thinking of her and wanted to get her something! I find it really sweet. It doesn't have to be a lot of flowers, just giving her one shows her that you care about her. Make sure it's her favorite flower because that would show her that you listen to her and know what she likes.
Rule #6 : Two Words. OTHER GIRLS.
Guys don't let other girls hang all over you. Even if you are just friends, don't let it happen! If it does happen, ask your girlfriend how she feels about it or if she tells you listen to her and don't let it happen again! Also, if that girl does hang all over you, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT leave your girlfriend to talk to that other girl every single time that you see her. This will hurt your girlfriend and make her feel stupid and unwanted.
If your girlfriend tells you that a girl bothers her then she is telling you to stay away from her because she feels threatened by her. You could be really close friends with that girl and something about her could set off warning sign to your girlfriend. She may not know what it is but she just knows that there is something about her that she doesn't like and she doesn't want her around you. She may sense something that you don't. She may see something you don't without even realizing it!
If you see your girlfriend getting ready to sit down somewhere, DO NOT sit with the other girl if she has already told you she doesn't like her or you see that she bugs her. DO NOT sit with her! Go sit with your girlfriend. DO NOT motion for her to go over there and sit beside you if you know she doesn't like the other girl or if you can tell she doesn't feel comfortable with you being around her.
DO NOT talk about another girl NON-STOP! That is just a plain NO NO! Do not talk about a different girl all day, every time you are with your girlfriend. Especially don't do that if she has told you that she doesn't like the other girl. She will get extremely upset, whether you realize it or not.
Rule #7 : Solving Problems.
Solving problems. Now, I know that boys have issues trying to figure out what is wrong with a girl, especially in the head sometimes. I understand this. You just have to talk it out TOGETHER. You have to talk about what you both felt the problem was and try to figure out a way to make it better. Don't avoid the problem. This can get the girl even more mad at you and I'm pretty sure you don't want that. If you avoid the problem, it could happen time and time again. Every time it happens, it will grow larger and larger in the girl's head. At some point she will explode and tell you everything that bugs her. You don't want to get to this point. When a problem arises, remember these 7 steps:
1. Talk to each other.
2. Find the problem together.
3. See where the other is coming from. (Ex. Feelings)
4. Find possible solutions.
5. Try to compromise with each other.
6. Try to use the solutions that you both came up with to see if any of them help.
7. Try to not have this conflict arise again. If it does, don't avoid it and go through the steps again.
Rule #8 : Don't Use Love as an Excuse to Get out of a Problem.
This kind of ties into the last rule. NEVER use love as an excuse to solve a problem. This is just like avoiding the problem. If there is an issue, don't say "I love you" and think that it will solve the problem. Don't say that you think your love should be enough for your girlfriend to forgive you or to solve the problem between you two. This might make her mad. She might go with it a few times but at one point she will get fed up with it.
Rule #9 : Hold her Hand and Give Her All of Your Time That You Can.
Every girl finds out every now and again that you can't be with her 24/7 but when you can give her some time, do it. Go out and do stuff with her. Hold her hand while you two walk. Just give her your undivided attention, give her all the time you can, hold her hand, and most importantly, make her feel special. By doing the first three things you should be able to do the last one, but try to make her feel special to you. Make her feel wanted.
Rule #10 : Don't Let Pride, Ego, and Selfish Ways Cause Her to Walk Away.
If you have such a big ego and you are very selfish, you could run her away. If you say something that she doesn't approve of and it makes her walk away, go after her. Don't let your pride stop you from saying sorry to her. If you truly like her and want to keep the relationship going, if you ever upset her, no matter how many times she tells you to not follow her or how mad she is, go after her. Try to comfort her. Hold her in your arms and say you are sorry for what you did that upset her. Never be too prideful to say sorry. If you do say sorry, though, make sure you know why you are saying sorry and say you will try working on it.
