Sons,
Find someone who is simple with unwavering faith in the Lord. Faith gives us strength and hope. Having that someone in your life will double your chances of surviving your whole life through.
Please don't rely on looks alone. Remember that devils make sure they look their best and daintiest at all times as a front. Looks can be very deceiving. Just consider it as a plus. An icing on top of the cake. But you have to take it seriously too. Your future generations will be the main recipient of the choice you'll make.
Notice how they treat the people with lower financial/intellectual/physical state than them; especially those who are ugly in their eyes, the ones who they think are stupid and dumb, the people who had measly income and the people who do the dirty job. If they only show respect to those they think are above them, they're not worth being a part of your life. Respect should be universal no matter the status financially, emotionally, physically and intellectually.
Make sure they command respect themselves. Stay away from those wearing skimpy stuff and those who wear too much makeup. Self preservation is a way of respecting oneself.
Find someone who inspires you to be good and to be your best. Someone who doesn't stop you in achieving your dreams, someone who'll support you no matter what. Someone who has patience, assist you and help you to stand up when you fall.
Find someone who's smart with humor. You cannot stay forever with someone who's boring to begin with.
Make sure they're loyal. There are things that are meant to be shared and there are things that are meant to be monogamous. Once a person cheats, there's a 75%-100% chance that they'll do it all over again. One you truly love, cheating is out of the question, no matter what the circumstances are.
Avoid those who just stay around to take advantage of what you have and what you can give. Avoid giving extravagant gifts and only give on special occasions. Never spoil them and don't give in easily. Do not let anybody take advantage of you.
Always choose someone who works hard to get what they want. Someone who loves to learn new things. You wouldn't want to be with someone who just wait for things to be handed to them at all times. Nobody wants a lazy wife.
When you've found that someone, always say outright what you feel. Do not keep them second guessing their status in your life, what they mean to you, what they are to you. Seize the moment while its there. Take chances coz you might not have it again. Don't forget to always show respect their parents by courting them properly. Visit their home and show that you only have good intentions. Parents appreciate that gesture, though they won't show it, for obvious reasons that they don't want you to get too comfortable.
Let me remind you that in order to get someone who's "all of the above", you should also work on being an " all of the above" kind of guy too. In order to get a good girl, you should be good too.
When you have that someone, love her with all your heart. Please note that you may not get it right the first time and you might get hurt. But remember, never be afraid to try and fall again. It is only in falling and being vulnerable, you'll find your match. If you keep on holding back because of fear of pain, you'll end up lonely and it might not be a life worth living.
Keep in mind that there's no complete package when it comes to lifelong partners. Choose wisely. There's still so much more that you need to know. Talk to me and I'm all ears.
I love you
Your #1 fan,
Mommy
