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March 9, 2017

How to Deal with Heartbreak

Everyone comes to some point where they are truly, deeply, emotionally hurt by someone they cared a lot about. For me, it's middle school. I know it sounds ridiculous, but it does happen and I feel like it was time for it to happen to me.

The person I truly cared about is a guy I have had a crush on since sixth grade. No, not a crush. A true liking. He is my close friend making it so much harder to type this. At some point I thought there was the slightest chance, but after today I feel as if it slipped away faster than fine sand. I just need to find a way to deal with it.

Now, according to phycologists, a crush will typically last 2 years. Mine is now 2 and a half and it has been the hardest part about middle school. Seeing him every day, not interested in me, but rather a popular girl. His smile his laugh all fake around her, but true around me and a few other people. Thats the main reason I thought I had a slight chance. He isn't afraid to make ugly faces or really stupid jokes around me, but with her, it seems he barely speaks. I wish that if he would choose literally almost anyone but her, he would feel more comfortable, but no. He would rather have awkward silence than people he can be himself around. Even if it wasn't me, there are a few other girls he acts normally around. I wish he could see that.

Today I realized that I have zero chance with him. Turns out him and popular girl have been on a date. I knew that they went to our 8th grade dance together, but not a date. Ugh. Wanna know something? She didn't even know he spoke fluent Spanish and that his mom doesn't speak fluent English. I knew that! He's stupid. Anyways, when I realized they had been on a date, I felt literally crushed. Like there was a black hole in my stomach. Or a vicious lion tearing apart my insides, but I kept the smile up. Acted happy for him. Even though I was heartbroken. How do I fix it?

Step One:

Cry a little.

It's okay to cry. As long as you don't spend days in your room doing it. That's when it gets unhealthy. Crying is a great way to release emotional unrest. Especially if you do it while holding a pet—Love you Maggie—or a soft, cushiony item of some sort. I don't know how or why, but it helps.

Step Two:

Try to put distance between you two.

Now, if your like me and see them for almost 6 hours a day, that can be hard. The easiest thing to do is don't talk to them unless one of these two things happen: they talk to you or something about homework came up. The distance will help you with step three.

Step Three:

Give yourself a minute to relax and breath.

Don't suffocate yourself by burying yourself in work or something else. That just pushes away the thought until it builds up and you can't handle and you may end up breaking apart in front of them. You can't expect yourself to get over them in a snap. You need time.

Step Four (optional):

If Step 1-3 doesn't work out too well, try surrounding yourself with friends

Sometimes, someone hurts you down to your black endless soul that you try to keep hidden and steps one through three just don't work. surrounding yourself with people that love you and won't leave you in heartbreak can help you realize that it's okay for things like this to happen. this brings us to step five.

Step Five:

Get over it. It happens.

This step will obviously take a little while, but just get over it. If they hurt you, they don't deserve you. Remember, your amazing. In the words of Maggie Lindeman,
"Somedays I'm strong, somedays I quite, I don't let it show, but I've been through some sh**"

-Maggie Lindeman

      Pretty Girl

With that I leave you fall involve and get heartbroken. Just don't take things too seriously. Peace out fam. <3