Seenzoned

 

     You’re not a normal person if you don’t know how it feels. How it feels when someone ignored you. If you don’t know how it feels, maybe you didn’t experienced having a crush. They said that every person has a crush. Don’t deny it, you have one. If you don’t have one, are you an alien or what? Back to the topic. For me, being ignored by the one I’m interested with or the one I like is an awful feeling. But sometimes, I get irritated. Mostly when that person just seen my chat to him! In other words, seenzoned. Seenzoned lets you know if the person you chatted is not interested of what you said. The things that I will tell you in my essay are being disappointed and stop being disappointed, know your limitations and acceptance.

     When we are ignored by someone, for sure we get disappointed. Just like what I’ve felt when he had ignored me, I can’t stop being disappointed. Why? Because I expected a lot. I expected that he will reply on my chat. I expected or I assumed that he is interested of what I’ve said. And the ending is, I get disappointed. They said that “Don’t blame people or disappointing you, blame yourself from expecting too much from them” well, it  fits in my experience. I can’t forget that he had just seen my chat. Sometimes, even if he starts our conversation, at the end, he will just seen my chat. So how can I stop being disappointed? But that’s it, if you are disappointed, you have to stop being disappointed. I realized that I should stop being disappointed and that’s for my own good.

     I hate it when I remembered that he just ignored me. When I remembered that he had just seen my chat, as always. But I forgot that I’m just a friend of him. I don’t have rights to be mad at him because of what he did. I’m not his girlfriend or what. I’m not his obligation nor his priority. There is a quotation like “Know your limits and never stop trying to exceed them”. After knowing your limits, never stop trying to exceed them. I mean, try to do something that will help to exceed your limits to him/her or do something that will impress him/her or something that will make him realize that you are not just a friend of him, that you are more than that. That’s my mistake. I forgot to know my limitation . In life, before acting so ridiculous or before getting mad at someone, before getting jealous, you should know your limitation. If you’re a friend, act like it. Just act like a friend and no other than that. I used to plan something. I used to think of asking him what really am I to him. In short, I want to know my limitation. Assuming, isn’t it? But we should question everything. It’s for our sake. To stop getting hurt.

     I accepted it.  I accepted the fact that I’m just his friend, no romantic feelings. Though  I can’t accept it at first, I learned that I should accept it. Because if not, I may not be able to feel my happiness. They said that “Acceptance leads to happiness” and that’s true. You must accept all the things that happens to you, for you to feel the true happiness. You should learn how to accept all the things that you’ve experienced, even if it is a sad or a happy thing. Just accept it even if it hurts you. Why? Because everything happens for a reason. Like what I’ve felt, I know that God has a reason why it happened and I do believe that He has the reason for my own happiness and He just want me to accept that.

     We can avoid being disappointed if we stop expecting or assuming. Based on my experience, I can’t stop myself from being disappointed because it’s really hard to stop being it. Like my experience when he had just seen my chat. Seenzoned for the nth time. Seenzoned lets you know if the person you chatted is not interested of what you said. I tried myself to stop being disappointed at first, but I can’t. But when I realized that I should know my limitation, at the end, I stopped being disappointed, and after knowing my limitation, I tried to accept the truth. Then I learned it. Acceptance- and it led me to happiness.