A Book on Life

To Fight

Why do people fight? Some will say it's just angry people being angry. Others say they just want to pick a fight.
The way I see it, when someone is fighting with you, they are simply passionate about their side of things. Most of the time, anyways. Some people do just fight to be mean but it wasn't like they just woke up one day and said "Hey, I'm gonna be a bully today."
If you have ever shared an opinion on social media, sure enough, one person has commented that it is a stupid opinion. They are passionate about their side of the opinion and what to share it because they see your opinion as wrong. But they show it in the worst way possible.
I've been there. People have fought with me because of my opinions. We see it in our everyday life. Especially with politics, where the current politics climate is so intense that no matter what your opinion is, people will attack you for it.
That is because certain people see their opinion as the one and only right one and anyone else is clearly in the wrong. While it is good to stand by your opinions, there is a better way to do it than shoving it in everyone else's face. All that is gonna do is make your side seem crazy and people will be less likely to side with your opinion.
It is very easy for people to simply cave in and give up their opinion if it means pleasing people. It takes a lot to stand by your opinion and keep that angry hatred for the opposition in your heart. But it takes even more to stand by your opinion while not engaging in a yelling match with whoever may be arguing with you. People will find any reason to anger you or fight with you and it is very easy to engage and fight with them.
It is not as easy to simply ignore the fight. We want to argue because we believe we are right. But there is a difference between arguing and debating. I myself have fallen victim to people starting fights with me along with starting the fight myself but what does that solve? If both sides are yelling, how can either side hope to listen.
One of the hardest challenges is staying calm and keeping yourself together while the other person hurls insults at you and just wants to fight.
People would like to say "An eye for a eye." But Ghandi said "An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind."
I think if we want a more forgiving world, we have to start with ourselves. Even if no one else catches on, you yourself can take pride in knowing that you are a part of the difference. You are adding good to this world.
There is so much hate in this world, it wouldn't hurt if you tried to change it a bit. Maybe people will catch on to your example, maybe they won't, but knowing that you are helping add to the kindness in this world is enough. And that doesn't mean just hide from any fight or argument. There will be battles in your life but it is up to you to decide which fights are worth it.
There is a fine line between turning down a fight and holding onto your opinion and simply giving up. And with so much hate in the world, sometimes it's just not worth it to add more.