In my eyes, "girl code" isn't a huge deal, but some of the "codes" us females should follow totally make sense and should apply to every girl out here. For example, not dating, hooking up with, sending "pictures" or even flirting with a friend's ex, or even an ex friends ex. This is one of the "girl codes" I will stand by until I die, and like I said I don't even take it that seriously.
If you feel the need to even flirt with a friend's ex, your wrong and you need a reality check. Don't think that just because you and your best friend got into an argument its anywhere near okay to sleep with her ex-boyfriend. Yeah sure they aren't together it shouldn't mean anything... WRONG. It means a lot. I'll tell you a little story, by the end of it you'll think I'm stupid and that the girl I mention well... you can have your opinions about her
In the winter of 2015 my boyfriend of 2 and half years split up (because my best friend would constantly tell me I deserve better and she was my best friend, so I of course listened) thing didn't end bad, but we didn't stay friends, we were civil. I met a guy a few months later and we started dating (my best friend got us together). *pause* she seems like a great person, right? Yeah, I thought she was too, until this happened... a few weeks pass and my best friend and I get into an argument, no big deal it was over something dumb, I honestly can't even remember, and because of that argument, she dropped me like a fly. we've gotten into arguments before and ended up calling each other the next day wanting to hang out, my new boyfriend told me not to stress it, that we'd be talking to each other again in no time, but that didn't happen she threw my belongings in the lost and found in school ( we shared a locker) and deleted me off Facebook she began to avoid me at all costs, I had no idea why she was acting the way she was, until her ex (who was my ex boyfriends best friend) called me at work and asked if I was okay, I told him "I'm fine, why wouldn't I be?" and he said "you didn't hear?" I said "hear what" and he said ... "I'll send you screen shots" a few minutes later my phone buzzed and there it was, my heart sank and I felt paralyzed, my best friend and ex kissing, now this is where you're going to think I'm stupid I was still head over heels in love with my ex, yes, I dated another guy, but I mean I thought it would help me get over him, and that's why when I saw all of this is hit me hard... How can my best... well ex best friend does this to me? How could he? What did I do to deserve this? After work, I cried for about three hours, stalked both of their Facebooks (as much as I could because I wasn't friends with them) and the next day at school I found her and wanted to throw her out of a window, but I didn't I contained myself. He started picking her up from school, and I started seeing pictures of them all the time. Now this is where it gets sickening. I had a friend in cooking, and this friend was also friends with my ex best friend, my ex best friend sent this girl a video of her and my ex having sex and said "tell Kaylana to look at this don't open it until youre near her "in the chat. I blocked them both. I ended up breaking up with the guy I was with, and basically just secluding myself from everyone. I didn't want anyone to look at me I didn't want to talk to anyone, nothing. Id work go to school and sleep. I think I honestly went into a depression, but depression is serious thing so I don't like to claim it as that. I went into a funk a funk that no one, not even myself could get me out of. I walked from my house to his in about 3ft of snow to drop off a letter because he wouldn't answer my texts or phone calls... nothing. I dropped off the promise ring he gave me, and necklace once it got warmer, because looking at it every day didn't help me. She would taunt me in the halls, walking past my locker talking about how great the sex is, and how she's now living with him. I followed her home one day, and once we hit an alley I asked her what her issue is and she immediately called someone I don't know if it was the cops or him, but I saw her dial, and then she told me to follow her. I didn't, I didn't need police troubles by any means. I later found out she was cheating on him, and I tried to tell him so he didn't get hurt when he found out himself but he didn't listen. After I graduated (she's a grade lower than me) I got a job in the mall and apparently so did she. she'd come to my stand everyday talking about how great he is, at this point I was just annoyed and fed up with the bullsh**. A few months go by and I decide to try friend requesting him, he accepted, and him and her broke up a few weeks after. He texted me, I replied. I told him how much he hurt me doing this and he said he was sorry and that he didn't know what he was doing he dropped her, and would talk to me a few times a day, I got out of my funk finally, even though we were just communicating like regular human beings, it helped me tremendously for some reason. This got her really mad apparently because she started making things up about me, making fake profiles and so on. Him and I ended up getting back together, and she'd text him almost every day for the first week or so, saying how he screwed up and how she misses him. Even though she told her friend who was also mine how she did all of this out of spite to get me mad. She's clearly an attention seeker, but like I said you can have your own opinions about her.
A few years later and she still harasses me, makes fake accounts, and acts like I give a damn about her. She also sent him nude photos of herself while i was away at basic training, thinking he'd give her the time of day. Him and I are having a child together and I'm glad I gave him another chance even though people think I'm stupid for it, he makes me the happiest I can be. He makes me feel wanted, just looking at him makes my day great, I can't even really put into words how he makes me feel, you'd physically have to be me to understand how much he affects my life.
So yes, that is why this code in girl code Is so important because while you may see it as no big deal, the person you're doing it to can be affected so horribly by it, and I wouldn't wish that pain on anyone, loneliness and seeing the one you love with someone you were once so close too... never in a million years would I wish that pain on someone.
