Magnified Thoughts

1 | Change

"People change. They always."
-Anonymous

Whenever I see her, I am always reminded of the good old days that we  had spent together. She's changed so much and she is so different from what she was before. I've always asked myself whether it was I that had changed.

I mean when your friends change and shit happens, you can't help by question if it is your fault. Like seriously some things won't stay the same and stuff but you can't help but feel like you want to return back to the past and reach the friend again. This change can come cold or harsh to any individual because the change is too sudden for us to take it in and gradually accept it.

A person changing for the worse can in turn make you feel, "Maybe, I didn't do the things that my friend wanted me to do with her." In the sense, you feel like you did not meet the person's needs. But this change can also make you hate the person because of their changed actions or behaviour. For a start, you disapprove of the person's actions and behaviour or their morals basically goes against yours and this slowly fuels your hatred for that person. I've also known of a friend that changed to fit in and be part of a clique that was perfectly out of her personality and character and I was quite shocked by her actions. But I am kinda glad that this change has influenced her positively.

But on the other side of the spectrum, it's kinda good because you sincerely wish the best for the person you've been all these while and stuff. Woah. This sounds like a love relationship thing. HAHAHAH. I mean sometimes it really makes you happy and satisfied when that friends has become what they wanted to be or has attained what they have desired. The fact that a person has probably changed for the better makes you glad as they are stepping out of their comfort zone to create new experiences for themselves. But at the same time you hope that they would stay the same because maybe sometimes we feel that their previous self was better than their current self.

Change is inevitable. Everyone of us change constantly throughout our lives whether consciously or unconsciously. Even sometimes when we think that someone has changed, we are the ones that actually changed. Yet, we can only solemnly hope that even though they have changed, they would still be there for you. For good or for bad. I know that many of us are afraid and mad at that person's or our change but we need to be understanding towards that person on why she did it and also think of how a change can be beneficial for us.

At the same time, we should put ourselves in their shoes and think about why they probably changed because there is a reason behind everything they have done to us.

Also, you can ask for their opinions on whether you've changed or why they've changed. (If you think you are the change) Be accepting and understanding when you hear their point of view towards the issue too! And I would like to end off with a note with a song. "Space Between" sung by the Gardiner Sisters from the Descendants 2. The cover is just way too beautiful to describe! 

Thank You.

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