Are you depended or independent?
-” I am independent!”
If that is the case then you are like a Robinson Crusoe, or living in total seclusion under your own governance, but the majority of us are not in that position. In real life we depend on political, economical and social systems which are already in place depending on your geographical location. That simply means you are not as independent as you might wish to be. You are very dependent upon systems that restrict you according to its laws, rules and regulations.
Okay, you are physically dependent, but you are independent in your thoughts if not actions. Is that true? Those who are involved in the overwhelming production of mass media, advice and opinions that are easily broadcast and delivered to your door do not think so. If it were so, many commercial businesses and industries would be out of business. They are tirelessly trying to influence you as much as they can, because it works, and by influencing you they make you dependent on their products, advice and opinions. Let’s face it; we are all guilty by playing along. Still looking for independence? So am I.
Personally, I cannot see any conflict in this because each of us, luckily, does have our own mind that can think independently if we are willing to do so. The simple fact is that we can be influenced by others. The good news is we don’t have to be. We can adapt new ways of learning and improve the way we think. But, let’s not get over-excited because we always had the ability to think and yet, many of us forget to think for ourselves and take responsibility for our own thoughts and actions.
Our self-realisation is primarily based on self-interest. ‘I want’ and ‘I wish’, and again there is nothing wrong with pursuing your wishes and desires. Where we are getting off course is when we are not paying attention to our responsibilities. Responsibility means you shouldn’t be in the habit of blaming. If you want to, you are welcome to blame yourself. But if you don’t like it, don’t blame anybody or anything. Don’t blame at all. It’s a negative, destructive and useless exercise. Instead, try to rationalise the positive process of learning, deducting and finding the facts and truths. What you think of something is more important than what it actually is. It is your own perception and attitude, based on what you think must guide you to any action and yes, the consequences and the outcomes will be your responsibility.
Still want to be independent? Be free? Be happy? Be self-made? Be satisfied? Pursue your own dreams? Find inner peace? Achieve your own goals? Be in control?
Then welcome to the real world, where all your individual needs, necessities, desires and wishes are your own personal responsibility; which basically means it is a lot of work. This includes your mental and physical state and taking ownership of your own self-direction and development. In order to live as you dream – you, and only you, are responsible to provide the right environment. In order to provide -you, and only you, are responsible to produce. In order to exchange your production or intellect for money or other benefits – you, and only you, are responsible to find the buyers. Basically your desire is your own self-interest which carries with it significant responsibility.
Accept it or give it up. It is all up to you.
