quote from jonghyun:
" 'everyone lives like that. you're not the only one having a hard time.' this saying. for me, this is the worst way to comfort someone. comparing situations with other people...
there's also this saying. 'don't act like you're dying.' for me, the worst thing to say when comforting someone. people having a hard time, people suffering from depression, telling them, 'instead of thinking like that, do something else... if you're having a hard time, struggling that much, that tired, instead of thinking bad thoughts, it's better to use that energy to do things, to sort out things.' saying these words, honestly, that person knows it too. to do these things. that person wants to do that, but, [they] can't. thatperson really, really wants to [move to sort things out quickly] too. but [they] can't. physical pain and emotional pain are different. that's why, i think, when comforting someone, it's important to consider that something that may be invisible to me can still exist. there'll be someone who'll get hurt while i'm talking about this. but because i've also received hurt [before], i just wanted to say this. but since i've been hurt before, i just want to try and say this to my listeners. that rather than comparing that person's situation with someone else's situation, it's better to just have a conversation with that person. that's what i think."
