Life Tips

Relationships/Self-worth

Sometimes in a relationship things may seem uneasy for you. You may not be happy anymore. He/she may not be happy anymore.

If this happens it's best for you to just let go. No matter how hard it will be for you to do so. You need to let go and things will one day be okay.

Letting go is the first step of you growing and understanding so much more.

After that it will go downhill but that is okay. It's perfectly normal to be upset because you lost something that was a part of your life for the amount of time you were together.

Once your separated you'll learn to find your worth. You'll start to rethink lots of the things he/she may have said to you. You'll start to put the puzzle pieces together and understand that everything they said doesn't matter anymore. The only person you need to keep your head high is yourself.

Learning and finding yourself is the best way to move forward and not settles for anything less than you deserve.

Sometimes you just need a break from relationships, you just need to find what you're worth. Friends can help you and so can your family. But it's all up to you to manage it.

Make a list of all the good things about you. For example, you can write down:
1. Make others laugh
2. Always there giving people advice
3. Drop everything to help a friend/family
4. Try to understand people rather than judge them.

These are just a few examples but you can definitely write your own. Everyone has good in themselves even if you don't think so, there is good in everyone.

When you figure out your list you then see how much all of that is true and then you will end up saying to yourself, "wow I really am a good person."

You'll start to see that in any past relationship you may have been taken advantage of.

You out your 100% into that relationship, you give them all of you, you're always there for them, you will do your very best to make sure they're happy and doing well. Once that relationship is gone you'll start to see that they probably didn't try at all. They most likely just put in half of the work you put into it. You want something real and you showed it to them. They, on the the other hand, didn't give you what you gave them. You'll start to see how little they appreciated you and you will start to understand that you should never settle for anything less than how great you are of a person for someone to just leave you hanging.

You will start to understand that you don't need to rush into relationships, you don't need to find love so quickly because if you're young most people don't know what they want in their life, they just want someone to have fun with so they can leave when they find something better.

But no that shouldn't be the case. Whether you are a teenager or an adult, a male or a female, straight or gay, you deserve the best. You deserve all the love and appreciation you give someone. You deserve something real. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be confident in your relationship that both of you are working to make sure that you both are not wasting each other's time.

Because the last thing you want is to waste your time on something that you worked hard on while the other didn't try.

So don't rush into anything. If you just got out of a relationship don't rush into getting into another one. Take some time, find your likes and dislike. Even if you know them, you may find some new ones. Make some friends. Enjoy your time because your time is too precious to waste it on people you know won't be worth your time.