”Love.”
This word was something that went through my mind countless times since I was a child.
As I grew up I observed the world around me and how people use ”i love” on different situations. For their lover, for their friends, for their family, pets, plants, clothes, food, etc, but I never, not even once, I heard someone saying ”i love myself”; well at least till ”Love yourself” era from BTS.
I found it, and I still find it strange how people, how all of us can find so many goods and so much beauty in others and in the outside world, but when it comes to ourselves, we are stumbling like some really small children that are still learning how to walk.
Often if we are asked about what we don't like about ourselves, we can make lists, about everything, like every single ”negative” detail, we can point out.
BUT…
When it comes to say what we like about ourselves, it is like we are searching in the dark, while being blindfold…
Quite sad, isn't it?
You know, as you see good and beauty in others, there is also good and beauty that exist in yourself.
I guess, while living with ourselves and knowing every dark point of our existence, it can be hard, to see ”the light”...
But you know…
Beauty is more than the eyes can see.
You are more than the reflection of your mirror.
You are smarter than your grades tell you.
You are more stronger than the things that you can't solve right now.
You are not other people opinion or words.
You are not just your gender, sexuality, religion, financial status, etc.
You are so much more than all the things that you think that you are not, or that you are told that you are not.
…
What does your reflection show to you?
A face, a body, a height, a weight, that you might like or might not like.
But is this all that can describe you?
These aren't you. You are much more than these.
You are all that you like and dislike, the books that your read, the movies that you watch, the music that you listen, the beauty that you see in the others, the will to go on when things are hard, the hope to move forward, even if everything seems dark.
…
Beautiful soul, would you listen to me a little bit?
I never thought that being beautiful is equal with perfection. Even when I look at how mesmerizing the nature is, I always see how it has flaws. Trees aren't all straight and tall, leaf aren’t all green and bright, they all have flaws, they bend, they break, they are ripped, misshapen, with ”wrong” pattern of colours, but I never thought, not even once, that all of those are ugly. Through all the imperfections, and flaws, they gain something that belongs to them alone, and this make them so beautiful.
I think, that we are the same. If we’ll be to search the definition of perfection, we won't find ourselves there, but still, there is so much beauty. All the flaws, all the mistakes, all the bad part, alongside with everything that is good and warm, make you be unique, and this make you so, so beautiful. More than any number, or thing that can describe a small part of yourself, you are a gathering of things that make you, be the true you, and the true you, is so good and beautiful.
For me, at least, all of these blend together are way more perfect than anything that ”perfection” could ever describe.
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And you say that you are not strong, because you face a situation that you can't solve right now. But… wait a second and take a deep breath with me. Just think: life wasn't easy, there were a lot of hard things in your way, there were situations that bad that you lost sleep, that you were exhausted, that you felt like you won't make it through and that made you feel like giving up, but you didn’t. You kept going and overcome so many things in your life so far. You are not weak. You are strong. Way stronger than you think. So give yourself more credit for all that you've done so far and trust yourself that you’ll be able once again to overcome whatever you are facing.
I know that you can't see all the goods and beautiful parts in you, but while counting all that you dislike and hate, remember that they aren't all about you. You are also all the beauty that you see in other people and in the world.
And I know, that loving yourself is a long journey, that it is like a maze, and that you can get often lost, but still don’t give up. Loving yourself, is a really important thing to do, it is a really important thought and feeling to hold.
Maybe you don't hear this often enough, but:
You are good!
You are beautiful!
You are kind!
You are smart!
You are strong!
You are amazing!
You are perfect!.
You can achieve anything that you want!
You are worth it!
You deserve to be loved!
So please, give yourself love.
Forgive yourself for all the bads and all the mistakes that were made. We are humans, we are learning. Don't let all the mistakes to become a burden. Allow yourself to learn from them and to move forward. You deserve forgiveness, so forgive yourself.
And allow yourself to do things at your own pace. If it is about learning, finding a dream, finding a way for making your dreams work out, for healing yourself, and for anything else, allow yourself to do it at your own inner rhythm. You are yourself, you are not the others, so how fast someone does something is irrelevant. Take your time, and don't blame yourself for this. If you go at your own pace, you are doing it right.
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Truly, you are great. And I really hope that you see this. I hope that you can see, and if not, that you will be able to see all the good and beauty that exist in yourself.
You are worth it. You deserve to be loved, by anyone, and most importantly, by yourself.
P.S. I mentioned above that I didn't hear ”i love myself ” till LY era. This is true. I became an ARMY in June 2017, and I found out about BBMA later on, so even if they said this before I didn't know.
[this message is not mine. Its from one of the army confession so I helped him/her shared his/her confession about "Love Yourself"]
