I always saw myself as fearless and tough. I have suffered abuse, betrayal, and came close to death, and with each struggle I came out stronger. I now see myself as a survivor. I have strength, and it's endurance. My inner power is a reaction, not a catalyst. It's taken off a lot of pressure I didn't know I was putting on myself.
Life is easier with reduced anxiety.
It's ok if people don't understand me and/or don't like me. It still bothers me, but it's something I'm working on letting go.
If I have to go out of my way to feel wanted, it's not worth my time. (There are some exceptions to this. If someone needs some time alone, I put in more effort to understand and give them space and trust that things will go back to "normal" soon enough.)
It's ok to be uncertain, I feel like most people who claim to know how the world works are assholes. People only know how the world works from their own perspective.
Don't give advice unless you've been asked, or unless you asked the other person first if they want some advice.
Don't feel the need to argue with someone else the best way to live your life. You are the one who is going to be stuck with the choices made. You get to make that choice, with no explanation or apology needed.
Try not to compare yourself to other people, just compare yourself to past versions of you cause as long as you're moving forward you are still on the road to becoming a better person.
Make time to do the things you enjoy doing. You are worth investing in.
It's ok to jump into something without knowing if you are doing it the right way. It's ok to make mistakes.
The hardest one. You can love someone and still keep them shut out of your life. You don't owe anyone an explanation why, and if they are going to think less of you that's ok. Always chose the pain that will hurt less.
