Self-assessment on one's feelings

Anger

Sometimes , when we get angry , killing that particular person would be good , spitting vulgar or demoralising statements that we are entitled to our opinion , degrading others , we feel like our voice needs to be heard sometimes , the desire to win an argument , the desire to win the status that seem to matter and is so very much valuable at that point of time because it makes us feel good with that sense of achievement. Sometimes , when we get angry , we feel hungry to prove ourselves innocent , to justify ourselves because we feel like we don't deserve these statements at times. These are the moments that will shake our faith so bad.

We will first need to ask ourselves , are we Hurting someone to win the argument or to justifying what we want to say with the right intention?

at some point of time , we will need to remember it's not worth it to be angry to fight for your right all the time in an ill-mannered way. Firstly, it's because we will hurt ourselves , the more can't control our mouths , the more we get used to voicing out and not controlling our feelings and ourselves with the right intention , the more we'll feel the hate , the more we will shoot ourselves in the head in the long run.

On that note , we may hurt this person we are quareling with , no its not about the person , its about you, what's your intention? Are you hurting someone else? If yes , what for? Just to prove something? So you need to hurt someone else for that sense of satisfaction that may last for a short while? Aren't you the same as what you think the other is if you hurt the other?

Secondly, justifying too much with the wrong intention , if you depend on the sense of achievement snd satisfaction too much which is when you finally let someone else , or you can consider it your "opponent" lol understand , after awhile , you'll realise it's temporary , you'll realise it may not be too important because some people will have difficulty getting it because they have their certain mindset on it.

This is way you should know that you should never waste your time , wasting way too much of your energy. But rather, try to reach one of the highest level of patience , which is to endure the negative thoughts and seek peace in pain, if its a loved one , remember those happy moments , try to understand your loved one on why they are acting this way? :') sincerely , not because you need to. Loving can hurt sometimes but can mend your soul. The more you practice to love , the more you are able to control yourself , the more you are able handle challenges and situations in life better positively.