How To Get Over Heartbreak

1. The Breakup

So, if you're reading this, you're one of a few things: one: you're curious and bored, two: you thought it was fiction, or three, you're like me: desperately trying to get over a broken heart. So if you're the type of reader I'm writing this for, then you're here because you went through a breakup. No matter how messy, or how long ago, or who's fault it was or what's happened since then, you were broken up with or you did the breaking up and somewhere, somehow, your heart cracked a little and you're here because it's having a hard time getting fixed.

Here's rule number one: cut off contact. And i like this rule because it's never too late to do this. Whether it's the day after you break up or like me, ten months later, everyone's situation is unique but it's never impossible to just clear your head and your phone from their name for awhile. Here's what removing him as a friend did for me —

1. Eliminates my ability to talk to him so I won't try anything
2. Eliminates his ability to talk to me (it's kind of a fake thought but I mean he can't contact me so I can't keep wishing he will)

They're simple thoughts but they're helpful thoughts.

For me, the more I talked to him, the more I missed him. It's the remembering what a good person he is, but also how much the conversations had changed since what they were when we were "together". It sucked, that comparison, because as good of friends as we were it was quite obvious that that was all that we were.

So anyway, when I stopped talking to him, I almost stopped thinking about him. Almost.

However, everyone's mindset, situation, and break up is different. You might miss someone more the less you talk to them. But in that case, cutting off contact is still your best bet. You can be friends all you want, I'm all for that, but having meticulous contact, if you still have burning feelings, is not going to get you over someone. It'll still have you thinking about them, still have those feelings knocking on the back of your head even if you claim they've been replaced with feelings or friendship.

So, that's step number one. Wherever you're at in your breakup, you should ease yourself into very little to no meticulous contact.