with love, yours everyday girl.

Entry #1

Dear diary,

We visited our mother's home today. So, what's special, you ask. I'm coming right there. Aakash is a great person, I'm not telling that he isn't. He has my back whenever I need him, supports me, makes me happy and all that but I do too, right? Not that I'm not okay with what he does but what mom said today is still at the back of my mind. She gushed on how much of a perfect man Aakash is and how lucky I am to get a man like him.

Not that I'm not lucky to find him but what is perfect when we share the load?

Its his home and he should take the responsibility to clean it along with me, they are his kids as well and why do people have to idolize him when he goes to pick them up or when he attends every event at school. He cooks, yes but when he gets to eat in the house dosen't it make him responsible to make it as well?

Then I should also be a perfect woman as I do everything he does but I'm still a women who fulfils her duties rightfully.

Both of us work, we share the household chores, take part in our kids lives. Everything equally as equals. If that's the case then why is he a perfect man? He's just fulfilling his responsibilities and I'm not jealous of him. Just furious on our thinking.

Sharing household chores is a great act of kindness and good heartedness in our society when a couple are responsible for their family equally.

A man cooking without letting the lady of the house cook is not idealism or heroism, its his responsibility. So, is helping with the household. And if we keep gushing over the duties they have to perform and idolize a person who does their duties as a perfect man how can we achieve equality?

What if my son supports my dauther as he consider that as heroism when its his responsibility?

And why are we confusing responsibility with idolization?

I might be exagarating but this really did touch the chord.

Love,

You.