8. Keep anime and lolita seperate! Lolita is not cosplay, and it didn't originate from anime. Maid/Cardcaptor Sakura/Mana/Misa Amane/Rozen Maiden/Show By Rock!!/Yoshiko Tsushima cosplay is not, and will never be lolita. Just because a character happens to dress in a lolita-inspired way doesn't mean that they're a lolita. If you show up to a lolita meetup in you'll be dismissed as a weeby ita. Same goes for things like it's not a coord, it's a costume.
9. Wear ALL the components of a lolita coordinate! That means main piece, blouse if required, headwear, lolita shoes, legwear, and wristwear (if you're wearing short sleeves). When something out of the above is missing, your outfit will look unfinished and unpolished.
♔ Seems like a lot of rules, huh? Well, fear not! These rules aren't really hard to follow at all, and they quickly become second nature. Again, with a very particular fashion comes a very specific ruleset.
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Part Two: Mythbusters - Lolita Edition
♔ Alright, now it's time to debunk some stuff! There are countless rumors constantly flying around in regards to lolita, and most of them aren't that true at all. So, I'll take a little time to explain some stuff!
1. Lolita came from anime. Some people actually think this, weird as it sounds. Lolita's origins actually lie in Rococo, early Victorian, and as well as influences from Alice in Wonderland. Teens in early Harajuku combined these influences with their personal style, and thus lolita (well, old school lolita) came to be.
2. All lolitas are female. Well, no, but there must be some element of female passing to truly be considered lolita. Brolitas try their hardest to look just as cute as their female counterparts, and use wigs and makeup to conceal their more masculine features. Even Fahrsindram, a transman, If you don't pass, /cgl/ is quick to label you either a fakeboi or a fetishist. I won't say my personal views on this subject, but the former sentence is the harsh reality.
3. All lolitas are lovelies. Some itas (and even genuine lolitas) out there believe that all lolitas must be ladylike, Pollyanna type girls who sit in fancy chairs eating sweets and sipping tea all day. Obviously, this isn't true. There isn't a certain "lolita personality," because every lolita is different!
4. All lolitas must be skinny. Angelic Pretty has actually become more accommodating to fuller body types over the years, and plenty of Taobao ( )ands offer custom sizing! There are quite a few adorable, plus-sized lolitas out there. Just beware that if you're bigger, certain ( )ands (especially classic ones like Innocent World) will be less likely to fit you. Don't squeeze yourself into dresses that are too small, find ones that flatter your body type!
5. All lolitas are catty, backstabbing ( )andwhore b----es! ABSOLUTELY not true. Some lolitas may like stirring up drama, but there are plenty of friendly lolitas out there as well. Again, everyone is different, and there will always be bad apples in every batch of good ones.
6. You have to stick to one style. Also untrue! When you first start out, you'll want to decide on a basic style and color palette, but you can always expand later. There are many, many lolitas who wear different styles and colors.
7. Lolita is ageplay/DDLG/adult baby/sissy/insert fetish here. NO. NO. Absolutely not. Just because the name of the fashion is associated with a book/movie about a pedophile (which, by the way, is supposed to be a story told from a monster's perspective) doesn't mean that lolitas are all kinky daddy's girls. If one of the above type of fetishists is found in the lolita community, they're shunned (that is, if they ( )ing their fetish outside the bedroom). Kinkshaming and lolita go hand in hand.
8. Brand can never be ita, or ( )and name items excuse you from being an ita. , , and ! "Brand itas" are just as painful to look at as normal itas, sometimes even more so! Knowing how to wear the clothing is just as important as buying quality items. A bad coord is a bad coord, no exceptions. As you can see, even cele( )ities like Lil Mama and Lady Gaga can be massive itas.
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