When The Vow Breaks, A Journey From Hurt To healing

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Humanity was created and designed with intricate needs. Babies cry for milk and to be changed. Toddlers cries when they fall down and scrape their knees. Teenagers cries when they are rejected by their peers. Adults cries when loved ones dies. We rejoices in good times and we are affected by tramas, like relationship that falls apart. All humanity longs for love and affection and has needs. We are on a daily quest a for a greater fulfillment. Abraham Maslow comprised a five-tier model of human needs in a motivational theory in psychology. In which he illustrates the four needs of humans, psychological needs, safety needs, esteem needs, and self actualization.

• Physiological needs: food, water, warmth, and rest.

• Safety needs: security and safety.

• Belongingness and love needs: intimate relationship and friends.

• Esteem needs: prestige and a feeling of accomplishment.

• Achieving one's' full potential, including creative activities. To belong and be love is at the center of Maslow's hierarchy of human need. This need is met by forming positive relationships. When this need is not met ostracism sets in which results in depressions, sadness, and anxiety. Do attraction matters? Is beauty just skin deep? Do birds of a feather flock together? Do opposites really attract? What makes our affection bloom or grow fainter?

Think for a moment about two of your closest relationships one romantic the other a close friendship. What psychological chemistry binds you to those relationships? Why doesn't this same chemistry exist with everyone you meet? Why do we befriend some relationships and avoid others? What leads to friendship? What enables close relationships? Why do relationships end? What is love? Why do we fall in love?

David Myers, In the book "Psychology," helps us to understand just how we connect with other psychologically and the helps us explore the foundation of friendship and the attraction which influences our partiality and love which includes proximity, interaction, anticipatory and mere exposure. Before friendships can start they must become close. Proximity-geographic nearness is friendship's most powerful predictor.

Study after study reveals that people are prone to marry those who live the same neighborhood, or attend the same church, or who work in the same office. Interaction is another type of friendship that is formed from just crossing paths. Anticipatory is to like someone you anticipate interacting with. Mere exposure is to like someone after repeated exposures. Physical attraction is a strong indicator of predilection for someone. A woman's attractiveness is a better predictor of how much they date than a man's. Women prefer men with mature muscular physiques men on the other hand; prefer women with softer features hips, small waists and long legs. Love leads to more attraction for loved ones and less attractions to others. In addition, we have the tendency to choose partners who are similar in attractiveness and traits as ourselves. Married couples are more similar than dating couples. Similar couples are more likely to be friends.

INTRODUCTION

All relationships matter, regardless to whether its a mere friendship or romantic relationship. Without relationships we wouldn't exist. It is through relationships we were created and by relationships we procreate others. We build relationships daily and we engage with other people everywhere we go. We form relationships at work with coworkers, at church with members, family and friends. However, longevity and loyalty of relationships are the byproduct of a great relationship. We're not relationship experts, but it's apparent to us, that shared compatibilities and shared interests are the missing links to relationships that last. Not all personalities mesh well together and not all relationships last, but discovering the right personality type will complement yours. This is key to building great relationships. Now that we agree relationships are important and that relationships are an important part of life. A connection must first be made, before you can nurture and build a long lasting relationship. Here are some myths and truths about friendships.