Warning: I can't really give advice on coming out to parents because I haven't/will never come out to my parents.
Anyway, let's start!
💙Coming out to friends💙
I've found that sometimes, coming out to friends can be both a pain and a blessing. I came out to my newer friends first, and told the ones that I really wanted approval from last.
Now, I can't guarantee that coming out will go well for you, sadly, even in 2019 we have some people who are still homophobic.
I had a friend that I had known since fourth grade call me a "Satin Spawn." And "A child of the devil." Then to top it all off, he told me I would, "Go to hell for my sins."
That broke my heart at the moment, but at the end of the day, that's his opinion. If you love someone of the same gender, then that's your choice and your right. Don't ever be scared to be who you are.
💗Participating in 'Coming out day'💗
Coming out day (Oct 11th of every year) helped me overcome a very big obstacle last year, I came out to my best friend.
I wanted to add a little rainbows and pride to my account, but until I had my best friend's approval... I didn't feel proud.
I felt like I had to stay in the closet and hide forever, but I didn't. I came out to this person on accident, and the more I went on, the harder it got.
I don't think you'd understand unless you've been there before but, I was trying so hard to say, "I'm bi!" But I couldn't do it. Those moments of happiness and everything that happened before... Could have all been gone after those two words, I was trying to hold on a little while longer.
Finally, when I said it, I started bawling and begging them not to hate me.
"It's okay." We're the first words they said after I came out. "I knew what you were trying to say, but I'm proud that you did it yourself."
I remember thinking in that moment why they made me do it myself if they already knew but then I realized...
They wanted me to say it out loud, embrace it and be proud of it after all these years of keeping it swept under a rug.
And I just remember being so thankful and happy that everything wasn't over, and now, I didn't have to hide myself anymore, which made me feel alot better.
Honestly, can I just thank Hyperxctive for giving me my very favorite memories of coming out, that was both one of the best and hardest things I've ever done.
💙My advice?💙
Please, don't hide in the closet. Be yourself because you are beautiful and talented and special the way you are. You are not at fault for loving guys, gals, nonbinary pals or anything in between. As long as you and the other person in the relationship are happy, you're absolutely fine.
And if someone like a friend or family member is faulting you for being whatever sexually you are, ignore them. Take nothing they say about your sexuality seriously, it is your choice and your right to be whatever sexuality you want.
Well, that's all for now, I love you guys!
~Sarah
