So, today for the next few minutes I am going to tell you what you are going to read about. The topic for today is most relevant to your age group.
The topic is the Inferiority Complex. When we see others who are better than us in looks, personality, financial status, relationship etc. We feel jealous, sad, insecure or get the feeling of Inferiority. When someone achieves more than what we have expected for our own self, we feel insecure. There are so many kinds of insecurities that we have in our daily life. The one you had a crush upon is with someone who is way more worse than you. You feel insecure about yourself. It happens. Doesn't it. At least it had happened with me.
There's no one in this world who doesn't have this complex. So, what's a permanent solution to this?
Some of you must be thinking that the inferiority complex comes with comparison. That we compare ourselves and our situations/conditions with others on the basis of looks, money, situation and success.
So, it can be concluded that the root cause of this insecurity is comparison. So, my question to you is that why do we compare or need to compare ourselves with the others?
Some of you would think we do it cause of happiness.That for an instant, a boy got a good girlfriend cause he had looks, personality and good physic.
While some of you would find a comparison cause we only see the positive qualities of the one we are comparing ourselves to. Or say it that the one we are comparing ourselves only shows us with his/her positive side while we are busy comparing our negative sides with his overexposed 'only' positive sides.
In the age of social media, do you upload the worst picture of yourself or the best one? Do you upload the picture 'in which you won't even recognise yourself' or the one in which 'you are looking the best?
We all are trying to show the best out of ourselves which has a strong possibility that isn't the truth. We do have our strengths and set of weaknesses.But we are trying to hide/avoid our weaknesses.
Many of you think that the reason behind this comparison is 'lack of self-confidence'. But if you pay a deeper look at it, the comparison has some reasons. And there is a strong possibility that there is a reality hidden in that comparison. Without reality, if there's a comparison, we don't feel bad or insecure about it. For example, if you aren't fat and someone taunts you as 'fat' 'pig' 'hippo'; would you feel sad/bad about it? No.But if you are really fat, and someone taunts you upon that it's obvious that you will feel bad about it.
So when your Dad/Mum taunts you that you are an idiot at academics and must learn some studying habits from your topper cousin that clearly means that you are poor at studies. If you were the topper, why would they actually taunt you, and even if they do you won't have felt bad or insecure.
So, there's a reality behind the comparison. That's why we are feeling bad cause it's real. There's the truth and henceforth we feel bad about it.
If it would have been fake then we won't have felt anything bad in it.
But reality stands, we cannot deny this. But there are instances when people actually try to show you something that you feel jealous and insecure about it. Here's come another root cause of comparison - 'the virtual reality'
Virtual reality means the one that is not actually real, but it is seeming to be real. And we are all surrounded by virtual reality. What do we have in social media? Reality or Virtual reality? Exactly, its virtual reality. But the comparison going in our home, schools and public places are real or virtual? It's real.
So, let's find a solution for virtual reality. To see it as virtual reality and to understand it deeply that it's virtual and not real- that liberates you from this comparison forever. If you find the truth of the fake reality/ virtual reality that it's 'fake'. The moment we do it we will come out of the comparison and henceforth the inferiority feelings.
For example, the social contains looks personality and glamour of the body, perfect figure or perfect physic. But is it the truth? Can a body be perfect? Is it 'looking perfect' or is 'actually perfect'?Understand the difference between the two. It's not necessary that the one whose body is 'looking perfect' is actually 'perfect' inside out? For a good life, what is more necessary? A body which is fit from the inside? Or a body that appears to be perfect from outside? So whatever that is visible on social media is actually fake.
To avoid this comparison, see the truth behind the social media online pics and looks. The moment you see it as a fact, you will solve the problem of inferiority complex in the virtual reality.
So, if you really want to do something big in life, you need to be free from this virtual reality. And to be free from it we need to find the truth that it's fake all over here on social media.
Now, coming to the comparisons based upon reality. Now there are few things that should be changed and some shouldn't. Like I am not good at studies and my cousin is. So I need to get as much higher marks he/she gets. See, there's no point in doing it. Complete foolishness. Do you need to understand what do you want to do what is expected from you? or do you want to do the right thing?
RIght thing.
RIght!
But what is the right thing?
Now you need to look at yourself, closely, maybe you were meant to be an artist and not a bookworm. So what will you do?
Compete with your cousins?
NO?
Cause with comparison comes competition. And there are no difficulties if you are competing where you have your strengths in your side. But you are competing where you have very big weaknesses while other competent has strength. Then no one can stop you from getting difficulties.
Your all attention is on the world around you and not upon your own self. While all complexities are in your mind. Important thing is that you need to solve the complexities you have created yourself in your mind about your inferior looks personality figures etc.
You aren't getting thin cause others taunt/bully you as 'fat' 'hippo' or a 'pig'. Miracle won't happen that a day they stopped calling you fat and you got thin. Then you would continue to avoid them and run away from them like a fool for not getting bullied.
The things that they say is the ' virtual reality' but the realisation that I am not feeling that well now which I used to be when I was physically fit, or when I had a balanced weight and now I have to lose my excess weight is 'reality'.
All the root cause of this inferiority will be solved when all of our attention confines to only on ourselves ( removing it from the others ) and we start working upon it, making it better and keep working for it.
