The Honest Truth

~Confidence~

What does confidence mean to you? Is it when people accept you for who they want you to be? Is it when you think you love yourself because someone else loves you after you've changed? Is it learning to change to make others like you?

No that's not it at all.

Confidence is hearing someone say "I don't like you." Then you saying. "Well your loss." It's learning to accept your imperfections. It's about settling for your best. You can't be perfect.

Whoever is 'perfect' in your eyes, isn't. They're just good at pretending. It's about, dying your hair and loving it no matter how it turns out. Seeing a mark on a test and thinking, I did my best, that's all that matters. Perfection isn't possible. 100% on a test? Perfect? Sure 100% happens, doesn't mean it's perfect, it's pity marks. There is always a reason behind something.

I'm not perfect. Far from it in fact. Well far from societies version of perfect. I am perfect in a way. So are you. You are perfect for your life, everything will happen as it is supposed to. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try, it just means, breathe, all that has to happen will happen.

Confidence. In my opinion is, accepting yourself for being yourself, all your flaws, talents, everything. It's accepting you for being simply you.

In today's society it's hard for people to accept themselves. This is because society wants you to be everything you aren't. They want you to be skinny but you can't not eat. You have to be smart but not a nerd. They want you to be their version of perfect. They are precise on how they want you to be. They just don't realize that what they ask of you is impossible.

I don't know who you are. Where you came from or where you are going. I do know this though. No matter what you are struggling with. You can do it. I know that sounds cheesy and fake but it's true. You can do this. Don't expect perfection. Expect your personal best. Accept your personal best. Accept all of you.

You don't know me. You don't know my story. You don't know anything about me. How can you trust what I'm saying? Well you really have to make that call. I'm just a person. Struggling through life like everyone else. Scrambling for perfection. Searching for a purpose.

The basis of this is. You need to learn that being confident, is the most attractive feature you can have. It allows yourself to be confident in your own skin. If that means you express yourself in a unique way, then do it. Show who you really are, because that is the person, you need to be proud of. Not the person you think you need to be. The person you were when you were completely free.

Confidence as defined by the Oxford dictionary is, the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.
Confidence as defined by me, the feeling of power you get when you accomplish something. The fearlessness of a person. Someone who is proud to be 100% themselves.

I used to strive for perfection. I used to want to be perfect. Now I strive for confidence. I want to be confident. I'd take confidence over perfection any day.

Some of you may not agree. Some of you may still want to be perfect. Then do me a favour and put this into perspective.

What is perfect to you? Is it tall? Smart? Good looking? Loved? Do me a favour. Look in the mirror. What you see there is perfect. That person staring back at you is perfect. Their eyes. Hair. Height. Smarts. Looks. Everything about them is perfect for their life.
I can't tell you this enough. YOU are PERFECT for who you NEED to be to ACCOMPLISH everything you want to in your LIFE.

If you don't believe me. You need to tell yourself every day. "I am perfect for me." "I am worth it." I know it sounds ridiculous. I know it does but trust me. Those will get you somewhere. You will go places. No one can be disappointed in you if you do your absolute best. Listen to your favourite song, play a sport, sing, dance, write, read, do anything and everything that makes you happy. Do anything and everything that makes you confident.

I was told by and nine year old that, "You know if you go on stage in front of a whole bunch of people, and you say I can do this, I'm not scared. That's being confident." This nine year old, never said anything about doing perfect on stage, or being the best. No, they said that it's when you believe in yourself, even if you don't know how it's going to turn out. It's believing in yourself no matter the outcome. You just need to get through it. Doesn't have to be 'societies version of perfect' it has to be your personal best.

The true meaning of confidence is lost when you grow up, especially around the age 10-16 years and even as far up as early twenties. Some people are confident because people see them as perfect. Others aren't confident at all. Very few are confident because they are themselves. Why are you confident?
I'm confident, because I know, I always do my best, if people don't like me for who I am then they aren't worth it. I'm confident because I am myself.
I hope with all my heart that you will read this and realize that you have so many reasons to be confident in yourself. You are perfect for your life. You are perfect for you. You should be confident.

"Confidence is key. Sometimes you need to look like you're confident even when you're not." ~Vanessa Hudgens