The Honest Truth

~Love~

Love. Is a broad topic. What I'm going to focus on is, love v.s infatuation.
Infatuation as defined by the Oxford dictionary is, an intense but short lived passion or admiration for someone or something.

Love as defined by the Oxford dictionary is, a strong feeling of affection.

Sounds similar right?

Love...infatuation...could be the same. Although it may seem like that I don't believe it is true.

Love as defined by me is, a feeling of unconditional, lasting affection towards someone or something. It is finding that person you can't live without once you've found them.

Infatuation as defined by me is, a feeling of admiration that is only short term towards someone or something, that is often confused with love.

They are completely different.
You can't love someone as soon as you meet them. That's not how it works. Love at first sight? That's not real love. It's infatuation because you've 'fallen in love' with how the person looks. Not for who they are as a person. You love their looks not their soul. Now. If you're drawn to a person for looks, then get to know them and stay for their soul that's different. That is love.

How can you tell if it's love? That's a good question. I guess it's the old case that only time will tell. You need to fully understand who that person is. Their faults, flaws, imperfections, who they are, in order to fully decided if you can love them through all that or if it's not love at all but instead infatuation.
Teenagers. Who are 'in love' the majority of the time are not. They are simply in love with the idea of love. They are in love with the prospect of it all, but never feel it truly until they are older.

In my belief everyone has a soul mate. Someone who compliments who they are. Some people find that person others do not. Then this proposition leads to a commonly asked question. How do you know who your soul mate is?

I know this sounds cliche, you've probably heard it a million times before, but it is also very true. When it's them you'll just know. I can't be certain on exactly how this feels because it can differ from person to person. I think that the overall common ground is that, it'll be a feeling you cannot explain nor deny. A feeling that stays with you even when the person is not. A feeling so intense that it can't be ignored no matter what you do to forget it and push it into the far reaches of your mind. It stays with you, forever.

They're so many things I could say on this topic, but I know each statement would lead to more and more inquiry's getting more and more complicated each time.

Basically. You can't explain love. People have tried many times and have failed miserably. I'm probably not doing any better either.

What I really think goes on in someone's mind is, if it just infatuation you'll know because you forget about them easily, want to avoid them at times, and just can't fully throw yourself into the relationship.

If it's love? You'll just know. You'll know because you can't not see them, you need to be near them, know how they're doing, you can see yourself being completely absorbed in them and be perfectly comfortable. You'll know because they're the one person you really want to kill, but can't because you'd miss them to much.

In a relationship. They're all these things people tell you to do. Honestly, they can't tell you those things because it all depends on the people in the relationship. Sometimes you're soul mates, sometimes just friends. The only people who can determine that, are the ones on the relationship. The best way I think, to see of you're right for each other is to just be yourself. Never lie or fake. Be who you are. If you do that everything will turn out how it is supposed to. How it's destined to.

The worst case scenario is, it doesn't work out and you realize that there is someone even better for you out there. Don't stay hung up on one person. Don't keep thinking about them. Just get up, get over it, and move on.
Love is one of the mysteries in life. Even though you may not notice it, it's always there.

"If it's not making you better it isn't love. True love makes you more of who you are, not less." ~Mandy Hale