LGBTQ+

leters to someone..

Some times. If your too scared to talk to someone in person. It might be easier  to get everything out and even if you don't send them the letter. It still helps you because you have written down what's wrong and how you are feeling.

I write a letter myself. And here it is

Dear mum, dad and zac.

I am writing this to explain everything about my gender, sexuality and romantic presence

First my romantic presence. I am panromantic.
Meaning I have romantic feelings towards all genders. So dad stop saying I'm lesbian.
Zac stop trying to say panromanic is something else. Mum, your the only one who understands this one even if you keep calling me greedy for liking all genders.

Second my sexuality. I'm asexual meaning that I'm never going to have sex with anyone.
So stop saying I'll grow out of it or I'll become sexual when I'm the right person. That's gray ace or demi sexual.  I am fully asexual.  Things that are sexual make me feel uncomfortable and I don't understand why you like it. 

Third my gender.
I'm gender neutral which is under the umbrella term non binary. Gender neutral means I'm a mix of both men and woman. I'm not just a woman and i'm not just trans. And yes because I'm not trans I still matter Zac.  My perfured pronouns are single they, them and theirs. Yes they can be used in a singular matter like you do when you don't know someone's gender.

ZAC JUST BECAUSE MY PERFURED PRONOUNS ARE THEY, THEM AND THEIRS. IT DOESN'T MEAN IM NOT GENDER NEUTRAL BECAUSE I DON'T LIKE THEU OTHER PRONOUNS. IT JUST MEANS IAM MORE COMFORTABLE WITH THE THEY, THEM AND THEIR PRONOUNS!!!!.  SO STOP SAYING IM SOMETHING I'M NOT. YOU GET MAD WHEN PEOPLE SAY YOUR A GIRL EVEN THOUGH YOU'RE TRANS.

My perfured name is max. I know you refuse to call me that mum became my dad wanted to call me Maxine. But it's my chosen name. The name I feel most comfortable using so please use that name instead of jasmin.  that includes you Zac..  I know you refuse to call me that because my "gender neutral side means it doesn't matter" so you can call me any girl or boy name  in the.world but it does matter.. I feel uncomfortable when people don't use my real name or pronouns. I'm just to scared to correct people.   Zac you shout at everyone, including me who has the worst memory ever, use the wrong name and pronouns.. but you don't care if you use my wrong name and pronouns.

Now you have read my letter can you please from now on call me Max and use They, Them, Their pronouns when talking to or about me. And can you stop saying I'm something I'm not and stop saying jokes about my sexuality. Or saying thay my gender isn't true and thay I'll always be a girl.

From Max.

(Zac is my trans ex boyfriend that I broke up with 2 weeks before valentine's day/our 1 year anniversary)